WoW ruined your life? Stop playing! [Update]
Slashdot is pointing to this blog post, written by a guy who just quit WoW, about how it completely ruined his life. According to him, WoW and the time "required" for even casual raiding were responsible for him gaining weight, losing his girlfriend and friends, wrecking his health, and generally causing him untold anguish and pain. On top of that, after he's quit, he even complains that his guild-- gasp-- moved on without him.Listen to me, right now: if this game is ruining your life, stop playing. If your girlfriend is telling you to choose between her and WoW, choose her, you idiot. If you're about to lose your job because you play this game too much, stop playing this game. It's a game. It's not responsible for any of the stuff that happened to this blogger-- he is.
We've heard the arguments he makes before-- blah blah blah, the game is addictive, it becomes an obsession, Blizzard is rewarding farming and time investment instead of skill. And all those things are true, to a degree. But coffee is addictive, too, and so is smoking, and so is alcohol. Is it beer's fault that college students do stupid things on the weekend? Of course not-- it's the students' fault for drinking too much beer. And if this guy is overweight, girlfriendless, and a loser, it's his fault, not the game. WoW is just that-- a game. Shame on him for forgetting that when most of the seven million other players don't seem to have a problem with it.
And the worst part... is after the jump.
And the worst part of the article is the sheer arrogance and snobbery that comes along with it. The piece itself is called "A View from the Top" (as if he's trying to brag how awesome he was ingame before he realized he was clearly playing too much). He brags about writing "actual mathematical proofs that allowed for fair and effective (yes, both) raid distribution according to efficiency, speed, and guild class population" when even his own guildies told him not to do it. And at times, you just feel like he's got to be making things up-- children "forced to play and grind for their parents"? What idiot parents would ever do that? Shouldn't he have given DCFS a call? And after having the nerve to "help" guildies who didn't want it, he's distraught that they left him behind without even a wave goodbye-- as if the whole guild should stop raiding because he quit the game.
Finally, he's so smug about quitting, as if it's a mark of honor that he was able to "fix" his life and get away from WoW. If you want to quit the game, fine. If you choose to stop playing because you can't handle dividing your work and play, great, more power to you. But don't take it as a point of pride that you were able to step away from the game-- you lost that when you chose to play the game too much in the first place. Even after you've quit, it's not the game's fault that you couldn't make good choices about what to do with your time. You're not better than the people still playing because you were able to "escape the terrible WoW monster." If anything, they're more stable than you are, because they were able to play the game without problems, and you couldn't.
If you play the game too much, it's your problem-- not your guildies for "forcing" you to play, not Blizzard for making an addictive game, and not the other players for pushing you to raid for epix. You made the mistake-- not to play the game (that's not a mistake at all), but to play too much. Accept a little responsibility for it.
Update: The blogger has replied here (the author of the blog, Soul Kerfuffle, wrote that post and the original guest blogger writes the first comment). He draws back a little bit, but still says that it is impossible to be a high-end raider and have a normal life. I absolutely disagree. The fact that he didn't have a normal life while trying to be a high-end raider is his own fault, not a fault of the game.
He also makes a point of saying it was the people he played with, not the game, that pushed him so hard. I can see that happening, but it's not like there aren't enough high end guilds here-- if you're playing with jerks, leave them. If they're asking you (and in his original post, it didn't sound like this was the case) to do things you aren't comfortable with (change your spec, leave your girlfriend, quit your job), then get a new guild. If you stick with those people, again, that's your fault.
Finally, I wanted to point out that he hints (says he "play[ed] the market"-- not sure if that means AH or something else) that maybe he was involved in gold buying and selling as well. That is a whole other issue, and my opinion on that can be found here. If this guy was also a gold buyer, then I have other issues with him. Anyone who buys gold because they "have to keep up" isn't just a cheater, they're a bad player.
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Reader Comments (Page 1 of 3)
michel Oct 18th 2006 1:32PM
how can I say ? Bravo !
Flor Oct 18th 2006 1:38PM
A glorious rant Mike.
The funny thing that the author seems to presume is that WoW was the source of his problems. I can count any other number of vices that have destroyed valuable portions of peoples lives. While im glad hes happier i really doubt that it was a hobby that caused his problems. The hobby is just an easy scape goat to a bigger personal issue.
If you want to believe that the second you leave a hobby your life will turn into a non stop bud light commercial than feel free. My experience is that life is often what your willing to make of it and often the biggest hinderance is ourselves.
So for any of you who read this and felt a few too many guilty pulls at your heart strings i invite you to step back. Make sure that you have important priorities correctly made. And then look to fit your hobby within those priorities.
As with our guild motto RL > WoW
Chillis Oct 18th 2006 1:47PM
Sux you couldn't stick it out till BC.
The expansion is gonna be a hoot even with out ya.
Get a life
Gunn Oct 18th 2006 1:49PM
Great post, I was happy to see someone with sense tear up this asshat. I saw the article on Digg yesterday and today on slashdot. Then came here.
Bravo indeed!
spot on
Heffer Oct 18th 2006 1:55PM
McDonalds made me fat.
Chad Oct 18th 2006 1:56PM
My fiance told me to stop playing WoW so much. Now she plays as much as I do and we have something we like to in common. We work and go to school full time and raise our daughter. We get maybe 3 hours a night on weekdays and pay our bills and stay in great shape. Just because you play WoW doesn't mean your life becomes a hell-hole. If she had ended up hating WoW, I would have quit... This guy lacks all self discipline and self controll. If he applied as much effort to life as he did this game, he would have been much better off. Good Rant by the way. I agree 100%
Afroloop Oct 18th 2006 2:01PM
Yeah I read this from Slashdot this morning and was thinking "snore"... Great rant and I agree with what you say.
Chad Oct 18th 2006 4:26PM
I think perhaps you have overreacted a bit here Mike. You are crusading against this person with nothing but personal opinion and conjecture to support yourself.
I don't necessarily disagree with you. But I wrote you a little something on my blog to tell you what I really think. Feel free to comment back to me.
http://blogchad.blogspot.com
We may not always agree, but I will be honest with you.
Dr. Woo Oct 18th 2006 2:05PM
If you're too blind to see your life changing for the worse while playing the game, then you shouldn't be playing in the first place.
I love how people try to build themselves up, tout their accomplishments in-game as if they're some kind of hero, as if they're giving up jewels and riches and wealth beyond your wildest dreams. You're just giving up what the rest of us would be giving / already did give up. A video game. A timesink.
These folks use their "social standing" in the game to preclude THEIR reasons for leaving (which almost invariably end up being the same thing), and people gobble it up. Well, I've got news for you. You're no different from the other cross-eyed addicts who can't control themselves and eventually get the testicular (turn of phrase) fortitude to finally cut the cord figuratively or literally.
In the meantime, don't begrudge some 35-40 hour players the greatest enjoyment they have. Some people play the game religiously for reasons you can't comprehend because you'll never experience those reasons. You aren't a "better person" than those of us still "stuck" simply because you stopped playing. If anything, it's a telling lesson in your own ability to control yourself.
Sorry for the harshness. I just loathe those who take a "holier than thou" attitude approach to this kind of thing.
James Oct 18th 2006 2:22PM
I work 40-50 hours a week, raid 5 nights, full T2, have a great social life with my friends, and still manage to regularly come to my friend's LAN center to hang out and have some fun. WoW has only become a part of my regular life. Ruined? Ya right, haha. I'm a hardcore raider and I still manage to have a great life. I enjoy what I do. Oh, did I also mention I'm taking college classes? Mhmm. Some people just have no concept of managing their time nor managing their life. I sure as heck wouldn't lose a girl over a game.
jpc Oct 18th 2006 2:31PM
Yeah, he's responsible for his own actions, but he says he doesn't want to judge. So you don't need to be so hard on the guy. So you guys don't have anyone in your guild that plays all the time and you hear their kids crying in the background at 1am and think to yourself, 'damn, that guys needs to get his priorities straight?' I do. If not, I'm sure you have a few people in their that are skipping out on homework and/or studying for it.
It's not the game's fault, and I don't think overall that he's trying to say that it is - cept he does point out how the most uber becomes not the most uber on a regular basis - but other than that he really doesn't say don't play and that the game is evil. He's just saying that people need to make the right choices - something we all already know - while giving his own story about it.
I just decided that I'm not going to raid any more. It takes up too much time, and I feel like a dull slob afterwards. I seriously hope that Blizzard finds a way to do away with anything bigger than a 20man raid. That shit's just excessive. I have some friends who play wow, and I actually have been neglecting them to go with my guild to their raids, and now I realise that that's just stupid. I'd rather play with my friends in blues, than a bunch of 'diarhea-of-the-mouth' rockstars wannabe's with purples - which by the way was the best part of the article.
Thunkon Oct 18th 2006 3:08PM
The Blog sphere caused me to rant! Stop me! Stop me!
puh-lease. Nicely done mate.
Nick Oct 18th 2006 11:18PM
It's hilarious the social escapism that people use to justify their weight gain/emotional disonnect/whatever. Sort of like saying, "I'm a serial killer because my daddy never threw the ball with me." This guys is such a pathetic loser, you almost pity the grandiose ignorance that he must live in. WoW certainly has addictive properties, but if you lose a chick over it? There's more at work there than Night Elves. I work two jobs for a total of about 50-60 hours a week, do freelance copywriting (dig my website, http://web.mac.com/nickmcgraw) and have a child on the way. Both my wife and I play five nights a week, raid regularly, and still have a vibrant social life. It's like the oracle at Delphi said "All things in moderation" (or at least I think that's what it said, my mythology is rough).
Bobbo Oct 18th 2006 2:36PM
Okay, yes, his article has some annoyances, but if you're going to make a comparison by saying that it's not alcohol's fault for people doing dumb things or drinking too much or whatever, well, yeah, actually it kinda is. That's the whole nature of addiction. You could also tell alcoholics to "just stop drinking!" but that sorta misses the point. WoW can harbor addictive personalities as much as anything due to some of the reasons he stated, and it's certainly been seen in (admittedly rare) cases of neglect and death that have resulted due to it, so it's equally short-sighted to say that everyone is capable of overcoming those addictive properties just because you could tell yourself (or think you could tell yourself...) to just walk away from the game if it gets to be too much. I don't think WoW or Blizzard should be blamed for any of this or punished or anything of the like, but it's silly to completely brush this issue aside when it's come up as often as it has.
synack Oct 18th 2006 2:41PM
Thank you. I ranted in a similar fashion about this guy's blog.
Not ONCE in the guy's entire post did he claim any responsibility for his own actions, place any blame on himself, or admit to any fault of his own for his addiction to WoW.
The only thing resembling any sort of ownership (in the form of blame on others) was his statements about Blizzard making the game addicting intentionally and being forced to play.
Verbal menstruation at its finest.
randomdude Oct 18th 2006 2:53PM
Wow ended a long relationship of mine, but then I realized I was playing Wow because the relationship was so bad.
Yay Wow! Now I've stopped playing Wow all the time and have a totally awesome new girlfriend!
Theadrick Oct 18th 2006 2:49PM
If your girlfriend, wife, s/o, whatever is telling you to choose "between me and WoW", then it's time to re-evalutate your relationship. You shouldn't be forced to choose.
My reply? "Have a nice life sweetheart, I'll find someone who doesn't condemn my hobbies/interests, or better yet... shares them with me."
top Oct 18th 2006 2:59PM
wow, all I can say is wow
people need to either get, or hang on to, a life...
Mike Schramm Oct 18th 2006 3:00PM
Ok, as an addendum, there are probably two things I could have included here, both of which have shown up in the comments.
1) The comparison to alcohol was probably not the best one to choose, because alcoholism is a serious biological problem and WoW "addiction" is not. I have a lot of respect for anyone who is able to quit drinking despite a seriously chemical dependency. But all the same, I'm still a beer drinker (Guinness!), and I think my life is better for it. In the same way, I play WoW for fun, to earn phat loots, and joke around with friends, and my life is better for it.
2) Yes, if your girlfriend is asking you to choose between you and WoW, there are probably other problems in the relationship anyway, and maybe WoW is just growing a problem that's already there. But I meant to say that healthy, in-person, social interaction beats playing a videogame at least six out of seven days of the week. (if it happens to be the Burning Crusade release week, then maybe five out of seven :) ).
Daghol Oct 18th 2006 3:42PM
I didn't take this so negatively. He was not really ripping on the people who play the game or even the game itself. It was more a cautionary tale about what the game can do to you. Yes, he could've taken a bit more personal responsibility. His comment at the end about the guild forgetting him was just a wake up call that your guild is not necessarily people you can count on. Don't get swamped up in the game that you think that these people you are playing with are a life (some may be friends, but most are just acquaintances at best). There is a lot more out there.
And to James who wrote: "I work 40-50 hours a week, raid 5 nights, full T2, have a great social life with my friends.." I can't imagine how you have time for a social life utside of game. 168 hours in a week minus 50 hours for work, at least 25 hours for raiding, a couple hours a week for classes, 50 hours a week for sleep... you must be a fricken genius at multi-tasking or something, but you are rapidly running out of any free time. I think it is hard to raid 2 nights a week and still have enough free time to spend with friends. I hope you are getting enough exercise.