I /gquit when the guild I was in just couldn't recover from the GL's unintended departure. Before I did, I tried what I could do to save things; organizing events, officer meetings, helping anyone who asked for it, calling the GL weekly with updates and asking for his opinion. In the end, I was so miserable, I made a toon on another server just to get away.
When I talked to my fellow officers, I discovered I wasn't the only one feeling put upon, feeling abused and unloved and unappreciated. People started leaving, although they did so when no one was on and only after telling me they were leaving. One person couldn't leave quietly and had to leave when several others were on and I got jumped about the exodus when it wasn't my fault. Asking if people would step up and fill the spots left vacant by those who had left garnered me "I'll help when I can", which, as far as I'm concerned is the old "you're not important enough to me" comment in another disguise. I decided then and there I had to leave for my sanity.
I talked to all those in the guild whom I respected before I left and called the GL to tell him how miserable I was, getting his blessing to leave. I left when only one other person was on. She knew I was leaving and actually left later to sign my new guild petition. It took 2 days for people to whom I wasn't close realize I had left. The tells were amazing. "How could you leave?" "What will the guild do now without you?" "Please come back. We don't have a leader." These were the same people who, earlier, had said they would help "when they could". No, I didn't tell them off although I would have loved to. The guild fractured within 3 weeks of my leaving but I know there was nothing I could have done to prevent it.
It's painful. It's very hard especially if you consider any of these people real life friends. But sometimes it is about sanity. Talking to every other officer and the GL privately and quitting as privately as possible seem to be the better part of valor and the least likely to cause the most drama.

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