I bailed on a guild. Completely. We were happily running successful Kara runs, and I was being groomed to start up a second (or 3rd) group as MT. I agreed to it. I had ample time in the evenings.

Then things started to get strange. The GL/GM started telling me that my wife and I needed to log on earlier because everyone else wanted to start at 7. Need I remind you that this was "my" group. Part of the reason I agreed to it was because I knew I couldn't reliably start before 8 and he knew that.

Upon explaining for the fourth time why I couldn't start earlier (I have young children, and my wife and I put them to bed.. it's a routine all parents are familiar with), he starts asking me why I don't just let my wife do all that stuff while I log in and play. Does anyone else see a problem with this guy asking me to shed my parental responsibilities AND ditch my level 70 Priest wife in the process?

Then he starts directing everyone in the guild to start sending me in-game mail if they were interested in being on my Kara team. No big deal.. didn't have an issue with that really, but it was one more thing on my growing list of crushing weight.

So I logged out one evening, and didn't log back on. For months. I just didn't need to deal with WoW like it was a job. It's not a job, and when the GL wants to take the enjoyment away and work people like they're being paid for it, those people will start to vanish.

I play again now, same as I used to. 7:30-2:30 every evening. Different realm. Different character. I did log on to my old realm and talk to the old guild leader. He was understanding. More than he would have been if I tried to explain it to him at the time.

I guess the point is.. everyone has reasons for doing what they do. No matter how friendly and casual guild chat is, there's always something going on in the background. Never take it personally unless the parties involved make it personal.

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