WoW as a bargaining chip

For parents, World of Warcraft can be a useful bargaining chip for their kids with the parental controls feature. It's easy enough to control WoW time if kids aren't doing their homework, floundering in school, or simply not doing their chores. Conversely, a friend of mine gave his son a WoW subscription when he did well in school. World of Warcraft can be so much fun and addicting that it's often used as a social tool, and it's often upsetting when our friends quit playing the game. How many of us have had friends whose significant others have "allowed" them to play the game after, say, a wonderful date?
I'm not sure if it only applies to me, but because I play the game with many of my RL friends and my family, I use the lure of WoW to full effect. I once had my brother do a specific task for the promise of an upgrade to The Burning Crusade. A little before he finished what I asked him to do, I secretly upgraded his account so he could finally make his Blood Elf Priest. Kind of manipulative, I know, but we did end up having a lot of fun leveling our alts together. How about you? How much a part of your life is WoW and has it ever been used as a bargaining chip in your social life?
Filed under: Analysis / Opinion, Odds and ends, Humor






Reader Comments (Page 1 of 3)
Will May 18th 2008 5:11PM
That's... that's so manipulative.
She sounds like the kind of person who, months down the line, will remember that-bad-thing-that-you-did-that-time and brings it up, even though it's not relevant.
She ought not to "punish" you like that during arguments... it implies that you're just some kind of dog that she has to train.
I suppose I could be misunderstanding. There is a difference between, "If we're not together I'd probably not have the drive to play WoW", and "To teach you a lesson, I'm not going to play".
Man... good luck.
Zach May 19th 2008 12:17AM
Wow. I did my wife a disservice there, didn't I? Just to get it straight, I don't think I could find a more wonderful & loving partner. She's the greatest mother, an excellent WoW player, and to top it all off, a bona fide hottie (that just had to be said). She cancels her account more out of being angry at me than anything. How many of us say or do things in anger that we regret afterwards? Trust me, I'm the luckiest SOB on the planet. All the praises I've written about her (check my old posts) doesn't begin to cover it.
C.A. May 19th 2008 12:21AM
@Zach: Did she read this and now you have to apologize or else she'll quit wow?
Sorry, that's a low blow, but you posting this thread can't be any more immature than her doing that to you or me giving you a hard time. :P
mdmadph May 19th 2008 11:15AM
@Will
...sorry, but you've apparently never been married.
C.A. May 18th 2008 5:13PM
That kind of shit is unacceptable. I had a girl friend who used more physical aspects of the relationship as a bargining chip and it's the same basic idea. To me, that's being treated like a child when you could actually talk things out like adults instead. I find it disrespectful and it's a pet peeve for me.
Gendou May 18th 2008 5:17PM
My wife and I, fortunately, do not issue ultimatums nor do we use bargaining-chips with one another. We're both adults, and we strive to treat one another as such. I suppose that that not all relationships are the same, and to each their own.
As for children, as we have none, I can't really comment on that aspect of the article.
Will May 18th 2008 5:23PM
Can of worms...
The can is open. Worms are everywhere.
Hangk May 18th 2008 5:35PM
I second what's already been said by the other commentors: threatening to stop playing WoW with you over an issue that has nothing to do with WoW is passive-aggressive, emotionally manipulative BS. I'd rather find someone else to play with, or even stop playing entirely, before I'd put up with a partner using WoW as a club to get what she wants from me.
On a lighter note, I did once pay my girlfriend 100 gold to go to the (RL) store for me. I was feeling *really* lazy....
Jordrah May 18th 2008 11:04PM
hahaha thats brilliant
mensrea May 18th 2008 5:42PM
"the message is clear -- 'we make up (or you see things my way) or I'm quitting the game!'"
And you married her why, exactly? What a manipulative little twit.
Eternalpayn May 18th 2008 10:50PM
I believe that has something to do with why he married her... :P
Will May 18th 2008 5:45PM
I pay my flatmates using in-game-gold to make dinner for me on occasion, and they'll pay me to go to the shop etc. I'm totally okay with THAT kind of RMT.
Varus May 18th 2008 5:49PM
Wow, your wife's a real superbitch. Sorry man, your relationship sounds like a real bummer. :-(
"Lovelorn" May 18th 2008 5:59PM
Yeesh. I really, really hate that kind of manipulative stuff.
Well, what're you gonna do? If she tells you "don't level", well.. don't level.
/sigh
Spirit May 18th 2008 6:12PM
This isn't the first time I've read about an over-controlling relationship in a WoWinsider post.
Y'all need less manipulative girlfriends/wives.
Alex May 18th 2008 6:25PM
Unfortunately, I have experienced the negative aspect of the parental control feature. As a sophmore in highschool, my mother and father still seem to find it necessary to baby me and punish me in ways that quite often don't make sense. Such "horrible" wrongdoings such as sleeping in an hour late or waiting five minutes to take out the trash because I was healing a raid boss seem like horrible crimes in their eyes, and as such I have had the game placed on limiting controls almost the entire time I've played it.
The other downside that I quickly discovered is that the system is very inflexible. Since my parents will often go to bed early, they set the controls to a time that i non-negotiable, since they are already sleeping. As such I have had many experiences of going through all of a raid, getting to the final boss, downing him, seeing that shining piece of loot I've been dreaming of, and theen being kicked off seconds before its looted to me.
In my opinion its all a very inflexible system, and given that many social aspects in society (news, research by doctors, etc.) puts such a negative spin on these types of games, that my parents see it for this horrid hell-spawn of a videogame. The parental controls just seem to help them enforce things they shouldnt really be enforcing in the first place. But thats just my two cents I guess.
mensrea May 18th 2008 8:05PM
Or maybe you could try doing what you're told for a change. If your parents didn't think the video game was a problem, they'd let you play it more.
The solution to your problem, then, is to prove to your parents that you're not a WoW addict. You can do that by doing what you're told, keeping your promises, and generally being the adult you want to be treated like.
Wikt May 18th 2008 6:37PM
Bargaining chips are somewhat cheap in such situation. There shouldn't be a need to take up a measure of controlling someone through something they want to do.
Solid Squall May 18th 2008 6:41PM
So your own wife treats you like this? Sounds more like she's your mother.
All I can say is that I'm glad she's your partner and not mine, because I wouldn't stand for that type of treatment. You know, being a man and all. Or maybe you don't...
KaliopeLlane May 19th 2008 2:10AM
Wow, lots of negativity here. I'm a mom who also plays WoW and I use the parental controls as a tool with my all 3 of my kids. For the most part they seem to consider it fair, life in general is a barter system so why shouldn't they learn that now? If they do their job (school, chores, whatever), they earn game time and if they slack I turn it off. My youngest is actually better behaved than other kids I see at school and such because all I have to do is whisper "Stop it or no WoW" and the unwanted behavior vanishes instantly.
I'm not nearly as harsh as poor Alex's parents, since I raid as well I will often extend their time to finish a run. But I also make sure to milk something out of it such as a favor I can cash in later ;) Just thought I'd toss in my 2cp that parental controls can be used as a tool to teach discipline and responsibility, not just as a whip with which to punish someone.