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2-02-2009 @ 1:15PM
"We as officers often have to be the ones to rise above for the good of the guild, even if it sometimes means swallowing our pride a little bit -- or "exposing" our own weaknesses. (Sorry, couldn't resist one more pun.)"I agree, he shouldn't have called him a "d*ck", but it's the officers who often have to be the ones to settle these things, not "rise above." What is "rising above", keeping it shush? Letting him do these things? How is letting him know he isn't doing what he's supposed to do "being prideful" to a point you have to swallow it?I'm sorry but if someone pulled that stunt in my guild they would be given the same treatment as above, except we'd do it with a lot more tact than calling someone an expletive like that, where I agree he did draw the line, but everywhere else the officers were in total control and doing the right thing, so to suggest they have to "swallow their pride" or some such is absolute nonsense. Officers have jobs to do to help ensure the quality of their members stays high - if a member who is of "high quality" starts being "low quality," they have to do what they can to reverse that trend.If he left the guild then you didn't just lose your best player, you lost someone who was willing to cause problems and show disregard to others around him. If anything you trimmed the fat and for that congratulations, but please do work on your etiquette.
2-02-2009 @ 1:40PM
I think what the author was trying to say is that the officer stooped down to anyones level is addressing the situation in the first place so the "rise above" verbage works here.And by being wrong and not apologizing it gives off the "no matter what i do it will never be wrong for the sole reason that i am an officer" attitude which in general just lowers guild moral.
2-02-2009 @ 3:29PM
I definitely agree with calling that player out. How you go about it depends in large part the company that you keep. Calling someone a dick in front of children or other people might not be appropriate, but that word describes that member pretty effectively.In general, I have no compunctions about calling stuff as I see it. I know for a fact that I can be an asshole at times, and I will say so. A large part of succeeding in the world is knowing yourself, and criticism from others can expose that to you. For instance, if someone is being a dick, I will call them out on that. No point in pussyfooting around it, if you don't get the point across clearly, most people do not get it. Now, there is another viewpoint. Some people might not be a[insert insult here], but they might ACT that way once in a while. I like to say: "you might not be a dick, but that was still a dick move."
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