Re: The first question. As an officer in a raiding guild I've come across this sort of scenario often enough that I know not to take someones perception of events as truth.

The idea of elitist jerks is just as much an ill conceived prejudice as the idea that social players are 2nd class players. Both stem from a lack of understanding and more often than not are when the accusation is made, it is incorrect.

You may think that the officers running their guild in the way they do and not valuing your contributions makes them elitist. However I would say that they are running their guild for the benefit of the majority of their members, in pursuit of common goals. So it is perfectly natural that where you are not contributing towards their main aims, they're not going to hold you in particularly high regard.

'There's a palpable taste of 'only raiders are real players' from some of the officers, though the leaders tend to temper the rhetoric when it comes up.'

Tbh with you, this sounds like the officers are far from being the jerks that you say they are. Instead it seems like your feelings may in fact stem from your own perceived inadequacies, since it doesn't seem like anyone is actually putting you down.

Be honest with yourself, do you genuinely not want to raid or is it a confidence issue? If it's the former then leave the guild, after all you're friends are only a /w away. If it's the latter, then ask your guild mates for some advice/help. Surprisingly raiders are people too and just as capable as casual players of being sociable and friendly.

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