Agreed. If he was neglecting her, spending all of his time on WoW, etc, that would be one thing. But I always want to tell guys like this to get the pair out of whatever jar she's keeping them in and reattach them. In a healthy relationship it shouldn't be any big deal to play 2 or 3 nights a week. That doesn't mean from the second he gets home to the second he sleeps.... have dinner with her, etc. And make sure your relationship is still a priority - that you're not suddenly taking her for granted because, well, you're married.

This, and frankly, that goes for any cherished hobby. I refuse to date non-fannish/geek types for this very reason. I've had too many friends of both genders needing to drop out of weekly P&P roleplaying sessions because their SO wanted them to "knock that ish out". Too many people have dropped out of my life because someone they were dating couldn't stand their gaming/comics collecting/anime fandom/etc. This is a basic respect thing, and to me speaks volumes about a person's character. No, you don't always have to share the same interests as your SO--but dammit, have some respect. My GF makes jewelry for a living and is a very crafty sort. I'm decidedly not, aside from cosplay projects. But I don't down her for squeeing at the bead store. Because, you know, I love her and that's something she enjoys doing even if I don't necessarily get the appeal of it.

I just don't get how people fail at something this basic.

Oh, exactly that. EXACTLY THAT.

My boyfriend is a car nut, a mechanical engineering major, and more than once he has tried to explain some breakthrough in his chosen field that has gone so far over my head it might have been mistaken for a UFO.

But I don't chide him for that, just as he doesn't laugh at me for my giggling girlishness over my books. We have things in common, we have interests that separate, and I think that recognizing that you can't be in your SO's life every waking second of the day is one of the foundations of a healthy long-term relationship.