@Vinnie: I think the point of Lisa's response to NotFunny is that there *is* a line beyond the personal comfort zone. On things like foul language, most people who don't like it just turn the language filter on or ignore the moron talking (I myself don't like foul language but as long as my filter is on I don't care). But some stuff can get GM action taken against a player, and for good reason. And that ISN'T a personal preference issue. Ignoring the fact that "hatespeak" is against TOS, some stuff (like rape or racism) is just straight up disturbing. There are no excuses for personal preference in those cases -- some junk is just wrong, period.

For myself, I get really upset about rape references, even if it's a friend joking about a boss kill or PVP, because I had a friend hurt like that. Badly. Like, front of newspapers, can still Google it kind of bad. So I'll ask people to cut out rape references because they upset me so much. If they're jerks about it, I'll drop, report, and put whoever it was on ignore. Because some stuff just isn't something you joke about in public.

So I guess my argument is... yeah, SOME things can be subjective. But the OP is concerned about the kind of cruel offensiveness you'd expect from sadists and sociopaths. And that stuff isn't subjective to anyone BUT the sociopath spouting it.