Imo, telling people about what he told you is worse than what he did to get kicked. I'd rather be in a guild with someone that went on holiday and got kicked than someone that can't be trusted.

And we can't trust the guy who lied about who he was.

Put yourself in his shoes. He just confided something to you that made him vulnerable. Dont repay his trust and friendship with betrayal. If it were me, I'd be horrified if the person with whom i thought i had developed a rapport screenshotted an admission i had made with the thought of using it against me.

To be frank, you dont need that screenie in the first place. It was unethical to make it at all. If he really is a flake, he'll do something else soon enough and earn his own ticket out of there, and if he turns out to be a good person who is using that grey logic the drama mammas pointed out that most people use, then betraying him and starting up drama isnt going to do anyone any good.

I never think it's unethical to make a screenshot of something like that -- it's practical. But the screenshot isn't the crux of the matter.

"Should I" got put in an awkward position by DiscHonest, because DH has forced SI to keep a secret that obviously makes SI uncomfortable.

I agree that SI is better served by just letting it slide, but DH was unwise (perhaps even unkind, in a thoughtless sort of way) to put him in this position to begin with. It is never comfortable to know stuff like this, and SI has my sympathy.