15 Minutes of Fame: WoW buoys autistic youngster

Should little kids play World of Warcraft? Players and non-players, parents and childless alike seem to relish pontificating. Ultimately, it all comes down to active parenting -- you have to judge whether your child's development and personality are suited for a dunk in the waters of a massively multiplayer world, and you have to stay plugged in, yourself.
For WoW player Tsiva, mother of an 8-year-old with Asperger Syndrome, the decision to bring her son into the game has paid off. "It's helped with his reading, counting, confidence, motor skills and it's provided him with a heck of an incentive to work hard outside of the game," she reports. Tsiva's been blogging since last summer about her son's adventures in Azeroth, in the hopes that their experience will enlighten other players and spread awareness of the ways playing games like World of Warcraft can be a positive force for many children, including those with disabilities.
Main character Tsiva Guild <Insurrection>
Realm US Sentinels-H
Thomas' main character Merve
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Realm US Sentinels-H
15 Minutes of Fame: Tell us a little about Thomas' challenges and needs.
Tsiva: Thomas has Asperger Syndrome, which is considered a high-functioning form of autism. He also has ADHD and a receptive learning disorder. He was very hyper and rambunctious from the time he was a toddler and he didn't start talking until he was about 4 years old. I knew something other than his initial diagnosis, ADHD, was the problem but I couldn't put my finger on it. We had a lot of testing done on him, but it wasn't until he started exhibiting some tell-tale signs (making loud, bizarre noises compulsively) that it clicked in my head as to what it might be. My brother also has Asperger's, and when Thomas started making those same odd noises, I was fairly certain Thomas had the same thing. I had to raise some hell to get the testing done, but upon being tested, the specialist said that Thomas is a classic Asperger kid.
Since we got that diagnosis, Thomas was placed in a special needs class at a new school and he's getting the specialized teaching he needs. It was incredible to see him go from failing academically, depressed and destructive, and socially withdrawn to thriving academically (reading and writing, to boot!), self-confident and happy, and capable of interacting with other people in a more normal way.
What first gave you the idea of starting him in WoW?
Thomas has spent a lot of time at my side, just watching me play. I'm not sure why I did it, but while I was farming mobs in Netherstorm, I prompted him to start counting. And count he did. I was a little surprised at how well he was doing and it occurred to me that without killing the fun inherent in the game, I could get him to play the game and use it as a learning medium.
How do you see his gameplay helping him?
It seems like it's helped him in a multitude of ways. I've noticed some improvement with his eye-hand coordination. It's also helped with his counting and subtraction. As he progresses through quests that require him to get a set amount of items, he has to look at the numbers and figure out how many he's gotten and how many more he needs.

How has his gameplay evolved since he began playing?
Well, he started out very slowly. He has problems with his motor skills, so at first, he was very slow when it came to moving his toon around and fighting mobs. Now, he moves his toon around and fights very fluidly. He also no longer mindlessly just spams certain moves. It took a while to get him to understand that sometimes it's good to go on the offensive and sometimes you need to stop and quickly heal yourself or others with you. (His main is a druid.) Lastly, his communication skills are a lot better, so he's been able to reply to others in-game.
And now you're playing along with him. How has that changed things?
Well, it's made me appreciate how easily I can do stuff in game. For Merve, he's making great progress and he's learning a lot, but a lot of the in-game stuff doesn't necessarily come easily to him. I have to work with him on certain things and coach him. It's frustrating for us both, but rewarding when he gets new achievements, does new things and gets really stoked about it. I've also had to cut back some of my own personal play time to accommodate running him through dungeons and helping out in game when he needs it. It's worth it, though. ;)
What restrictions and limitations do you place on his gameplay? Well, I let him play for 30 minutes to an hour most nights, plus or minus. If it's not a school night, I'll sometimes let him play longer. I'm sure he'd play a lot longer if I let him, but I prefer he goes outside to play and do things other than WoW.
In game, he's not allowed to group or chat with players he doesn't know. His communication skills in game are still rather limited. He can read quite a bit, but he has a hard time typing up responses. He has to abide by a no-whisper, no-group, no-trade and no-target rule to avoid him pestering people who don't know him and don't know his communication limitations.
I've had some people wonder what the point of him playing in an MMO is when he can't interact much with other players. Even without the interaction, though, he still manages to have a good time -- and to me, that's the entire point.
What's his favorite in-game activity?
He likes to fish and farm mobs. He gets really excited when I take him into dungeons, but if he had his way, I think he'd be more than happy to wander Azeroth, killing mobs along the way.
What is his behavior like now?
Thomas takes medication for his compulsiveness. There are some things, though, that medication can't fix. He is still, to a degree, more impulsive than a typical kid, even with his medication. He has a hard time focusing. He doesn't pick up on "normal kid" things. There's a lot of stuff kids pick up without being taught. Those sort of things we have to make it a point to teach him, and it's not always easy.
He also views things in a totally different way from other people. He simply does not relate the same way. He's very obsessive. He likes to hoard things. He's often noticeably anxious in social situations and will cling to you if you don't get onto him. And he doesn't have a sense of what's right and wrong socially, like most people do. It leads to some awkward situations. Mind you, he's doing so much better than he was before. But it can still be very stressful dealing with his issues.

He's working on reading comprehension, grammar and math. His teacher is also teaching him social skills that he didn't pick up like non-autistic kids do. I've seen him do things this year that a couple of years ago, I wasn't confident he'd ever be able to do. It's been within the last half year that he's really started to read and write well.
What about your own main character?
Casual raider, altaholic, PvPer ... I really like to mix it up. I raid a couple nights each week and spend the rest of my time either PvPing, chatting with friends or working on alts. I also find myself going off after certain objectives (achievements, mounts, etc.) when the mood strikes me. I have two level 80 priests, Tsiva being my second but more progressed priest. I main tank-heal with her for a casual 10-man raid group that I absolutely love. I also PvP quite a bit. I enjoy being that annoying disc priest who's a pain to kill.
How did you get into WoW?
My husband and I wanted an inexpensive way to spend time together. We figured 30 bucks a month for the two of us would be a lot less costly than going out every weekend. So, we got a couple of trial discs at a local Best Buy, were immediately hooked and the rest is history.
Follow the continuing adventures of Tsiva and Merve at Running With Merve. Read more about combining families with gaming in MMO Family at our sister publication, Massively.
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Reader Comments (Page 3 of 5)
jealouspirate Apr 13th 2010 4:58PM
While this parent seems to keep WoW as one of many activities, I think this is a very good point to make.
I know someone with Aspergers who is in essentially the same situation. Games helped him in some ways, but they've completely taken over his life now. If you think they're addicitive to the average person, take someone with obsessive tendencies and you have a potential receipe for disaster.
Juanin Apr 13th 2010 4:44PM
Fuck the lore! This is why I love WoW the most!
Piisuke Apr 13th 2010 4:44PM
Not to be a dick, but there's a certain age rating on the game.... parents these days. I guess people forgot the whole Manhunt story already.
It is sad for the kid he has all that, good that WoW helped him, but he shouldn't be playing the game.
InvaderDem Apr 14th 2010 2:54PM
I'm not saying you're wrong, but like everyone has said with all these "video game violence" topics, it comes down to the parent. That logic goes both ways. If a parent thinks it's okay for an 8-year-old to play a "T" rated game, that's their choice. If things go south though, it's on their shoulders.
MightyBurebista Apr 13th 2010 9:51PM
The jerk store called...they're running out of YOU!
Cead Apr 13th 2010 5:02PM
This mother is doing a great thing. I am stunned at the callous asshats that want to debate the merits of featuring someoneone with these disabilities in this feature. A child regardless of their age is full time and to have to deal with the obstacles that go along with a special need be it physical or mental is more than just a little effort.
My son is on the severe side of the autism spectrum and may never reach this level of play. So for now am content to have him fly whatever mount I am on around.
I honestly think those that want to pick the nits about the levels of achievement that this child or any other needs more help than any one I have ever seen in any sort of spectrum of disorders.
ipodlunatic Apr 13th 2010 4:50PM
Reading about this makes me feel very lucky... I'm 16 years old and I myself have Asperger Syndrome. Though my case is VERY moderate and almost entirely unnoticeable to someone that is not familiar with the disorder, when I was this kid's age I had similar problems: I was VERY antisocial and had very few friends, and though my IQ is incredibly high, I had a hard time learning because I didn't necessarily want to do things the way I was told to in a normal class. School was NOT an easy thing for me from the time that I was around 7-12. During that stage of my life, I was lucky enough to have caring parents, much like Thomas' mom, that put me in certain programs in my school that helped me with my problems. Learning became less of a chore and I stopped arguing with teachers AND my social skills have increased. Though I don't feel that WoW has really helped me with my disorder, I'm ecstatic that it has been such a great help to a kid that definitely deserves it. Oh and Thomas: I know how you must feel. =) Living with Asperger Syndrome is not an easy thing to do, but you have a loving mother and you'll do just fine.
InvaderDem Apr 13th 2010 4:57PM
This is the second positive-gaming article I've read today. Keep them coming ... I'm tired of the "Video games are bad because a child mistook a gun for a Wii controller completely overlooking the fact that the LOADED gun was in the childs' reach in the first place" stories.
Gaming can have positive effects. It's just too bad those stories are lost in all of the negative stories.
Aaron Apr 13th 2010 6:11PM
FYI guys April is Autism Awareness month.
Goarther Apr 13th 2010 5:44PM
This was so nice to read, great job Tsiva and Merve!!!!!!!
Zuckerdachs Apr 13th 2010 5:38PM
Wow, I'm very impressed! Druids are arguably the most complex and difficult class to play, and the fact that he's picking up on the versatility of his character is very cool! Bravo, Merve. I'm proud of you. =)
Brett Porter Apr 13th 2010 7:05PM
Just wow... that was a really awesome story. Thank you for sharing it with us, it really touched me!
tizril.c Apr 13th 2010 5:53PM
My 7 year old son has PDD-NOS, another Autism Spectrum disorder, and I've been finding that playing warcraft, in a structured and supervised environment has been helping him a lot. His reading has progressed exponentially since he made his "snow rogue" (gnome rogue) as he calls it. He hasn't started typing to chat in game, but just reading the quests to see what he has to collect has been great for him.
The beauty of this game is that it keeps the kids interested, whereas other forms of reading and fine motor skill practice just get boring.
tulipblossom Apr 13th 2010 6:24PM
I really found this article very touching. I had a difficult time making it through the whole thing without tearing up. I can only imagine how difficult it must be for Merve and his family, in many ways. And, it just makes me really happy to know that WoW is somehow making the whole situation somewhat easier for them.
I'm so thrilled to learn that playing the game is helping Merve is a number of ways. The best of luck to Tsiva and her family! I hope that you'll be playing the game together for a very long time.
Larry Apr 13th 2010 6:33PM
What an uplifting article. It was most encouraging to see a parent be so very involved in their childs development, irregardless of Aspergers or not. I found the article extremely poignant for todays family WOW time and appreciate it being posted. Kudos to this family and a positive statement for all of us who play, its just plain nice to see a positive example of gaming.
hawaiiansouljah Apr 13th 2010 6:38PM
I applaud Tsiva as well and I am cheering for Merve from the rafters (since with my luck, that's where I always end up sitting..*sigh). Its really regrettable that people find something negative to say about this article being that April is Autism Awareness Month, that its about a parent doing (not trying BUT DOING) something positive WITH their child. Yet, disgusting as it seems to me its nothing new. I am sure that the same people who would find something bad to say about Merve, his awesome mom and this great article where the same people who cried about Ezra getting special treatment from Blizzard, the same bunch of asshats who whine in BGs or feel the need to insult anyone who they are "better" than. GO MERVE!!!
Saving Throw vs Perspective Apr 13th 2010 7:56PM
@hawiiansouljah
Don't compare this kid to Ezra. Ezra died. This kid has an exaggerated case of social awkwardness.
I know the heartstring factor is high in this article and everything, but for fuck sakes man!
Tokkar Apr 13th 2010 8:51PM
Norstad, what IS your problem? Or are you just TRYING to get yourself banned?
Caradae Apr 13th 2010 7:11PM
My son has Aspergers Syndrome, he has been a gamer since he was 3, he grasped the concept quite easily early on, the most important thing that some people are missing here is the children with Aspergers Syndrome, have social and behavior problems, doesn't mean they aren't smart by any means, just means that they are typically too smart for their own good and get bored really easily.
I praise this mom for finding something she can do to connect with your Autistic son (whether people want to see Aspergers Syndrome as Autistic, it is which it why it's classified as Autism Spectrum Disorder) . With my son early on I had a hard time letting him get involved in Gaming, just because he let's it consume himself if I let it. I have been in the process of trying to build my son his own computer, he gets them and understands them and feels comfortable behind them, something he hasn't felt in himself for so long. He actually played Guild Wars and loved it and I loved it for him, you don't have to deal with the chat unless you are in a city and it's free, it's how I tested MMO's on my son. He will eventually play WoW, just need to get him the setup so he can.
I praise you momma, for letting your son play and connect and learn from an unlikely tool, you are an inspiration and so is your son! Keep up the great work!
gutserker Apr 13th 2010 7:15PM
I have aspergers as well, and have struggled in school, socially and academically the whole way. after being begged to play wow by a friend i got close with my guild and raid regularly now as one of the top dps or tanks (arms/fury warrior, blood tank/dps dk).
wow gives me a reason to push my skills and try my best and my reward is people looking up to me for my experience or knowing i can get the job done.
I currently work as IT support at an autism clinic that i go to groups at, so i get to make a little bit of a difference for us :)
as for wow being addicting i think it could be the case for me, but i dont have any local friends and i dont leave the house but for work, so not sure what i would do otherwise.