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4-19-2010 @ 5:54AM
As someone who has no issues with gays lesbians or hetros in any form, im sorry but your post comes over as YOUR the one who has the issue, not others. You say your not asking for special treatment, yet you expect people to do more than they would in the case of a hetro relationship. How is that NOT expecting special treatment?I have known 15 gay guys (that i know about) and more lesbians (and bi's), and 5 who were like yourself who claimed things were not equal, were the ones that had the most problems. The 10 that didnt give 2 hoots about who knew, had no problems. Homophobic behavour is not condoned in most societies atm (although in different cultures there are elements ofc) however too many non hetero's claim homophobic behavour, lessening the effect when someone who DOES suffer from that behavour. So have you any evidence from this case that says theres homophobic behavoiur going on? No. So why bring it up.As to some of your other points (which are considered mostly very cafefully and true) but this one stood out for me :- "And as an openly queer person, I can tell you that there are few things in life more depressing than watching a friend that was totally cool with you when they thought you were straight completely freak the hell out when they find out you're not"Have you considered the contradiction in this statement - if you are openly gay - and well done for that - why did you lie - even if it was only by implication - and let him believe you were straight until you were Friends? Have you considered that fact you let him believe you were straight for some time, before telling him the truth, would consistute a betrayal of trust? And no i wont fall for the 'there wasnt a right moment' bullshit either - its YOUR fear thats causing that issue - not their 'homophobia'Lastly the 'default setting'??? I have multiple problems with that! :-humans are not machines - we dont HAVE default 'settings'Hetero is the biological normal - based of procreationyou state the 'conditioning' colours our behavour - conditioning??? Im sorry you think that hetero behavour is 'conditioned', but i assure you it happens quite naturally and normally for us hetero'sIf society as a whole was homophobic - well ive seen what happens in a homophobic event - and theres far more gays alive that to account for that. Also please note your use of homophobic - you do know that phobic means fear right? Good - and the typical response to fear is fight or flight correct? Still with me - cool. So if 20 blokes are homophobic - in a mob - the typical response would be to fight - with my reasoning so far? I hope so - so if ALL of a society was phobic - do you really think that you would be protected from the majority?TL;DR version - Kylenne - you show your OWN prejustices by your posts
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