Skip to Content
4-16-2010 @ 5:31PM
@ Fierna: Because a straight couple that hides their romantic relationship from the rest of the guild does not have to deal with the same kinds of issues as a gay couple doing the same thing. The playing field is not level, because of hetero privilege. Yes, in both cases there could be a fear of the appearance of nepotism. We've all heard stories about the wife/husband who gets carried in a raid despite mediocre play, or gets undeserved loot because they're married to the RL. Or the girl in the guild who gets tons of freebies from dudes wanting to get in her pants, and nearly every female player being exasperated by that stereotype. And lots of couples regardless of gender make-up worry about being perceived in that light.But gay couples in a mostly straight guild might also hide their relationship for social fears, on top of all the practical concerns. PDA on guild chat may not be as tolerated as with straight couples, or if we're women, harassment of the "hurrr girl-on-girl is hawt" variety might skyrocket, often in the guise of being "accepting" (a friend of mine just left a guild over that not too long ago). Almost everything we do is colored by the fact that we're in the minority. If we make an issue of something, or even if we just talk about our relationships/weekend activities the same way straight people do, we're often perceived as "shoving our lifestyles down people's throats" or "being political". While WoW is not much worse in this regard than the world in general (and sometimes surprisingly *better*), all I have to do is step into a random LFD group with my server and guild tags to be reminded that there are some really hateful people on this game. And as an openly queer person, I can tell you that there are few things in life more depressing than watching a friend that was totally cool with you when they thought you were straight completely freak the hell out when they find out you're not. A lot of times the fear turns out to be unfounded, but it happens enough to make even the most well-adjusted of us wary sometimes. So yes, advice that ignores all of that is not sufficient.
First time? A confirmation email will be sent to you after submitting.
Members enter your username and password.
Enter your AOL or AIM screenname and password.
Please keep your comments relevant to this blog entry. Email addresses are never displayed, but they are required to confirm your comments.
When you enter your name and email address, you'll be sent a link to confirm your comment, and a password. To leave another comment, just use that password.
To create a live link, simply type the URL (including http://) or email address and we will make it a live link for you. You can put up to 3 URLs in your comments. Line breaks and paragraphs are automatically converted — no need to use <p> or <br /> tags.