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6-14-2010 @ 7:00AM
While I do not disagree with some of these things, and I think they're good tips-- I can't say they're entirely accurate. I've been RPing for a while now (I'm sure the author of this article has been too), and I've had a few IC relationships. Some of these things listed are fantastic tips... For someone who takes the game too seriously. I like to make friends with the people I roleplay with, I like to know them. By no means do I drag their real lives into the roleplaying though. I think that, as long as you keep IC and OOC very seperate, getting to know people well isn't a bad thing, and neither is ERP as long as it can further a story-line. (ERP in Goldshire on Moon Guard, for example, is just... ugh, sick).And if a significant other is getting so irked by someone ERPing, or having a relationship in WoW, then apparantly they have a problem, as it is only pixels. If someone starts fighting with you IRL about something you did in a game, then it's apparantly time for a change anyway.That's just my opinion on this article. Otherwise, it's fantastic. I just think you're giving too much room for IC and OOC boundries to be brought up, which would make absoloutly no sense IC anyway.
6-14-2010 @ 11:06AM
Only it's not just pixels, you're investing yourself mentally and emotionally in a romantic relationship that isn't with your RL partner. Some would say that's worse than physical cheating. So if you feel the need to stray like this, maybe that's a sign for you that things in RL need your attention more?
6-14-2010 @ 11:52AM
@BigBoylIt really confuses me how we can have an entire set of common sense rules that nearly every sane RPer is expected to follow, and how we constantly repeat to ourselves and to others that we are not our characters, and yet as soon as the subject of ERP comes up, it's suddenly assumed that no, wait, we really -must- think of ourselves as our characters, because we're RPing sex. What?I very definitely do not see my character as an extension of myself, and I would never knowingly engage in erotic or mature-themed roleplay with anyone who felt that way (either about me or about their own character). I understand that there's a lot of drama waiting to happen with a theme that volatile (which is why you always, always have to be careful), but it is in no way a betrayal of a significant other unless the following things are happening:1) One or both players is using the character relationship as a proxy for a relationship with the other person.2) One or both players consider the ERP to be more fulfilling than intimacy with their significant other.3) One or both players is hiding the fact that they ERP from their significant other.Of all the aspects of my character's lives that I portray, their sexuality is usually the one area I have least in common with them. A person who is actively "being" their character when they roleplay should probably think twice about getting heavily involved in -any- sort of emotionally-charged RP, romantic/sexual or no. A person who -writes- their character when they roleplay and is capable of keeping a healthy distance from them is most likely going to be fine, no matter what they decide to play out.
6-14-2010 @ 12:03PM
And for the record, I disagree with Salrik--if your SO is uncomfortable with your ERPing, you should stop. If you're willing to put it above the feelings of a person you're actually in a relationship with, then yeah, that's a sign that you're probably too attached to it. It's the kind of activity that you need to be able to be honest about your intentions with, 100%--it's not the same as a boyfriend/girlfriend throwing a fit every time you want to raid or something.
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