@vinniedcleaner
Just because you want a more competitive environment doesn't mean you are whining or being a control freak. It seems that his fellow raiders have exactly the mentality that you describe, as long as we are having fun, so what? So what if I don't buff and flask or research my specs, rotation and gear? So what if I'm doing less than optimal dps or stand in fires. So what if I auto-attack Saurfang and go for a smoke break? I'm having fun. To some people, that may be fun enough. To others, it may seem lazy and not much fun at all. To each his own. Don't judge because you don't have the will to "step your game up".

IMO it would be best to start researching other guilds to find people that have the same passion you have. You can always keep an alt in the guild to keep in touch or run raids with them when you aren't running on your main. Or you can stay in your guild with your friends, but start a separate 10 man more hand-picked to your liking to try out hard modes or LK. With Cataclysm already in closed-beta, its not going to be long till this stuff is obsolete. Have fun in the mean time, but make sure your long term goal will also be met without burning any bridges.