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10-15-2010 @ 6:33PM
@ Schadenfreude, who said, "It's so easy for straight, cisgendered people to say "well just don't do that" when they never have to censor their own behavior to protect themselves from harassment. "I have known cisgendered people of various sexual orientations, including straight, who fall on both sides of that... either of the "keep it to yourself" mindset or the "be proud of who you are, fight the bullies" mindset. I've also known some transgender people who are firmly of the "keep it quiet unless you must reveal it, choose to associate only with those who are open and like-minded" mindset. Only one of them ever told me they took that position out of fear of ridicule and oppression. The other two both took the stance of "the only reason to bring it up is if you're looking for attention". I've known transgender people who are so firm on being only recognized as the gender they identify as that they are cruel in the criticism of those who are open about being transgender, rather than having been born that gender. They, in fact, become bullies themselves over it. Assigning that view to "straight, cisgendered people" is closed-minded and unfair. And being part of the "socially approved" gender identity and sexual orientation group does not automatically mean never having to be concerned with being ridiculed for other things that may be different or unpopular about how a straight cisgendered person lives. Inaccurate blanket judgements like that are divisive and play right into the hands of the people who take delight in hurting those who are not like themselves.
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