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10-16-2010 @ 12:52AM
[Since I don't know what Gender Reroller's preferred gender is, I'm just going to use feminine pronouns for simplicity's sake. Sorry to the OP, if that's wrong]."We'll treat you the same but we will NOT treat you better than us, nor will we give you special protection and rights that the rest of us don't have. You don't want equal rights and status with us, you want *higher* status that us."Look, if I thought that that was what this was all about, I would be 100% on your side. No group, minority or majority, should have deferential treatment. Nevertheless I don't think that that is what's happening here at all. If you read Gender Reroller's post -- and I mean REALLY read it and think about what she is saying about her experience on WoW -- I think you'd see that she is not seeking some sort of privileged position in this or any other community. This is what happened: WowInsider decided to run an advice column. Gender Reroller needs some advice and so she asked a question. In the question she commented on 2 things:First, she said that because she was actively transitioning and because people on her server had heard her voice on vent before it matched her new gender, people had figured out that she was trans. She also implied that while her guild was cool about everything and didn't give her shit, the server at large had found out about her status because of rampant rumor-mongering and people were being sort of rude to her in pugs and whatnot.The second problem she voiced was that again, while her current guild was more-or-less cool, she has the same sort of aspirations as many WoW players and was thinking about moving on to a bigger and fancier guild (she probably wants to nab that Kingslayer title before Cataclysm drops). The only problem with this is that the three guilds on her server that would be worth transferring into pump their guild chat full of anti-trans talk and are probably aware (just like much of the rest of the server) that she is trans.So she posed the (simple) question: Should she 1) stick around on her server where people know all sorts of things about her and potentially will mock her for them and where it seems unlikely that the raiding guilds will accept her (or be nice to her if they do accept her), or 2) given that she is fully transitioned now and can finally pass for her preferred gender, should she server transfer and hope either that the environment is a little bit more trans-friendly or that nobody on her new server learns about her status.This all sounds to me like a reasonable question. She feels sort of put out by her server's culture and rhetoric and is wondering if a fresh start and some anonymity might make her feel better. Nowhere in this post does she ask for special treatment. She never suggests that the rhetoric on her server should change. She never suggests that the raiding guilds should change the tone of their guild chat. She doesn't demand wow institute some sort of "Treat Gender Reroller with Respect or Else" world event. She doesn't want to steal your dpsing job or get promoted to the head of a guild just because she's trans. All she wants to know is whether or not two WowInsider writers think she'd be better off sucking it up in an environment that she's sick of, or transferring to another server where the pastures might be greener. I don't really see where your righteous fury about special treatment comes in: she isn't asking you to change; she just wants to know if she should move on.As for gay/trans rights issues in general, I think if you look at what gay groups are asking for, you'll find that what they want is, in fact, equal rights without special treatment. Gay marriage = "everyone should have the right to marry someone they love, even gays." Repealing Don't Ask Don't Tell = "everyone should be able to serve in the military without being afraid of getting kicked out if someone learns who they're sleeping with, even gays." Anti-Mathew Shepard-style violence protests = "nobody should be tied to a fence and beaten to death, not even gays." If you religious beliefs or social beliefs or whatever tell you that you should be opposed to homosexuality on some sort of moral ground, that's one thing and there can be (and is) extended political, religious, and social debate over whether or not this is true. The idea, however, that the OP or that the majority of gays in general are seeking anything other that equal treatment is preposterous.
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