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1-17-2011 @ 3:18PM
The "She" is probably a "He" and is lying about the medical issue. You offered up a legitimate out of "medical" which they pounced on only to make it so you feel bad. Never ever offer reasons to choose from when asking people for reasons. If you come up with one that seems reasonable they will say yes even if its not really the issue especially when its such a touchy (medical? handicapped?) issue. If this person is mute , they should have said so from the beginning if they knew verbal communication was going to be used. They have to do it all the time in real life, its not like this would be the first time they told someone.
1-17-2011 @ 6:24PM
I don't think it is right to say the person is a "he"From my experience over the years, I've noticed the majority of women claim they don't have a microphone are still women. Or more specifically, transsexual woman, who's voices may be lackluster, and are deeply afraid of being harassed and bullied. In fact, the very fact that you suggested that the person is a "he" is probably the reason that, if I am correct, why she will not talk in Vent.My spouse is a transsexual. Her voice is lackluster. She refuses to talk on Vent for that reason and I speak on Vent for her. She is horrified of being bullied, and we are in Taint, the largest LGBT guild in the world. It would be absolutely devastating for a transsexual woman, who is playing an MMO, in part, to help escape the discrimination and harassment they may receive on a daily basis, to suddenly receive the same sorta bigotry ingame, one of the few places they have the freedom to be accepted for who they are.It is absolutely heartbreaking, depressing, and crushing for a transsexual woman to be addressed as male over Vent because of their voice.
1-17-2011 @ 6:39PM
It's stated that another guild member talked to her on the phone. It would already be out if she was not a she at all.
1-17-2011 @ 6:47PM
In fact, I feel like this is a big enough concern, that if I value the person as a raider, I will take them aside, and try to politely inquire if they do not want to speak in vent because they are trans, and pointing out that my spouse is trans, and that if they are trans, I will not tolerate anybody treating them as anything less than 100% female, and if someone has a problem with it, that I will put them on raid suspension or entirely remove them from the raiding team.I do not tolerate bigotry, discrimination, or harassment of any member of my raid team. No exceptions.That being said, this raider does not sound like she is worth standing up for as a raider, due to her unwillingness to perform in many ways other than simply refusing to speak in Vent.
1-18-2011 @ 1:37AM
How close minded and judgmental of you. I have a good friend who suffered trauma as a child and has been left unable to speak since. Attitudes like yours drove her away from WoW because she was sick of always being questioned at best and outright called a liar at worst. That's not even considering issues like tansgender and whatnot. Go think about your prejudices.
1-18-2011 @ 9:58AM
@ LiamThey said she talked on the phone already. Read the article. She can talk, just doesn't want to for some reason
1-18-2011 @ 10:39AM
Actually a lot of female gamers refuse to talk in vent because they do not want to be bothered when they are proven to be females. There was a woman here at my work who was a guild leader. She talked on vent once after 6 months. That was followed by everyone in the guild asking her constantly if she wanted help with anything and also flirting with her. It drove her away from the server.I can guarantee that there are just as many females pretending to be males as there are males pretending to be females and that these females do it to avoid harassment. A lot of us females just want to have fun playing the game and not treated like we are any different.I am definitely female and have a social anxiety disorder. I get by fine by typing but I do not talk on vent. When I've tried I have started shaking and feel sick. The few times I have talked on vent I have analyzed how aweful I sounded for the next week, even having nightmares over it. It's a phobia, which actually is a medical condition, and it's valid. I play a ranged dps and have good situational awareness. I research fights and spent 30k to power level my skills to 525, just for raiding. Not every person who doesn't talk on vent is like the one being described.
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