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2-18-2011 @ 9:54AM
I think the quoted poster is an idiot and he's going to regret it later. He has a great woman, who presumably is also attractive - and she wants to settle down and basically I'm reading that he's not into it and just wants to be friends and she's not really down with that.In all honesty, he needs to take her back before he regrets it later. Good women, that you can be great friends and lovers with don't come along every day. What has caught his eye in the here and now, probably isn't going to last.
2-18-2011 @ 10:07AM
Or maybe nothing has "caught his eye" and things are just like he said: they grew apart. Stuff like that happens. Several years ago, I was in a relationship with a great guy for a year: affectionate, devoted, and caring, but we broke up because, just like Ex and his girlfriend, we grew apart. Nothing caught my eye or his; our relationship just hit its natural end. And guess what? It's years later, and I don't regret a thing, either being with him or breaking up with him.Calling Ex "an idiot" and saying he just needs to get back together with this woman because she's attractive and wants to settle down and etc, is tantamount to saying "take what you can get, honey!" or "you should marry him/her, they have great income potential!". And implying that he only broke up with her because something new "caught his eye" is downright demeaning.
2-18-2011 @ 10:18AM
What I read between the lines of the post predominately come from this line, "I was an army officer with hunger for adventure, and her a beauty with hunger for a settled life."Since there is no details about "grew apart" and they both play wow, and raid, in the same guild - and they have been together for 2 years.....the quoted line says to me, "grown apart" means she wants more commitment, and he's not ready.And when he is ready, he's going to regret this decision.
2-18-2011 @ 11:46AM
It doesn't have to be about one person wanting a commitment and the other doesn't (particularly since the writer seems fairly poetic overall). Maybe he (assuming this) thought he wanted to settle down; lots of military folks like the idea of stability that a relationship brings. Maybe she doesn't want to leave the hometown while he's going to move to wherever duty calls--it's not exactly a "settled" lifestyle.But, if they have other interests outside the game--not necessarily another person, either--than a game they play together isn't going to keep a romantic relationship together. It made a great starting point, it sounds, but it can't be the end point, either.Maybe he'll regret it later; that's always a risk, though. Saying he should take her back when they've realized they're better friends and they aren't compatible, though, isn't always a good plan. Especially if he's still in service and may be deployed, or move duty stations, and if she doesn't want to uproot her life to follow.After any break-up, even amicable ones, there's going to be some hurt and emotion. That's what I'm reading here. They realize the logistics of the break up, but feelings aren't logical, or easily shut off.
2-18-2011 @ 11:56AM
When you're in the military for any length of time, you get itchy when you sit still. My dad was in the Air Force, and since we moved every few years, it became habit. To this day, every three years or so I get a wild hair to go out and do SOMETHING, anything, to shake things up a little. Maybe he wanted to continue his military career, put in for an assignment overseas or something. Maybe the thought of moving didn't sit well with her. It's very easy in the first stages of love to gloss over these concerns. "Oh, everything is perfect right now, why complicate it?" Eventually, though; they surface.You should get better glasses before you start reading between lines.
2-18-2011 @ 1:24PM
Someone sounds bitter about a previous breakup.
2-18-2011 @ 1:53PM
Na man, I'm married - 7 years all in. I dated a lot back in college and thereafter - makes you value the good ones that much more.
2-19-2011 @ 4:04AM
Not everything is a reflection on your life, do less "reading between the lines" and more "reading what's written".
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