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3-18-2011 @ 9:09AM
Throughout the entire article, I was just taken aback by this 15-year-olds level-headedness and strong grasp of prose.Joe, theres a saying from a website that shall-not-be-named that fits this situation perfectly: HATERS GONNA HATE. Do whatever you want kid. Lifes short. May as well live it.
3-18-2011 @ 10:15AM
It can be tough to find the perspective sometimes, particularly at a younger age when friends seem like the end-all be-all of your life, but the thing is that we have to learn how to think for ourselves and make decisions for ourselves. It shouldn't matter what some of your friends think about the games you play, and eventually many of us realise that.It can be tough at that age since our friends are sort of chosen for us (based on where we go to school, the activities in which we partake, etc) but the best thing you can do is answer the questions in the article honestly and make an informed, thoughtful, personal decision. Once you get into the habit of doing that, life becomes pretty fun and the whole world opens up to you.Best of luck!
3-18-2011 @ 11:07AM
It gives me hope sometimes to see other people around my age who also have similar maturity, and a level of rationality. I wish there were more of us, especially where I live. The downside when you're the only one you know that's like this is that hanging out with others your age doesn't seem to work like it seems it should.
3-18-2011 @ 11:53AM
To add to Al's comment: So long as you're not harming anyone else-- in all senses of the word-- with your activities (and that includes yourself), then you're fine. While life isn't always going to be good times and fun, you really oughta take the opportunities to break away from the humdrum of life when they're present-- whether it's in WoW, other video games, cooking, writing, or any number of hobbies.@Fragments: It gets better as you get older. It sounds like it's a no-brainer but it's true for two reasons. 1) Some people catch up as they grow and learn. Every one in their own time, right? 2) The people who are already 21+ aren't afraid to talk to you because then they don't look like pedophiles anymore and most people stop caring about chronological age differences.The main thing is to not let such a mentality go to your head because then you end up no better than the other kids who are still taunting each other over things like, "Well, my clothes come from this store so I'm better than you." It's difficult to get along with kids your own age when you're mentally years ahead of the majority of your peers, especially when (as Dharmabhum pointed out above) your "peers" are more or less chosen for you.The thing that helped me to continue my social development as a teenager was actually the Internet. I was ostracized at school for numerous reasons (like clothes, of all things) and it always seemed like I spoke a different language than the rest. So I happened to join an online chat community that, luckily, had many nice and honest people. They looked out for me because they found out I was a young'un and creepy people abound on the Internet-- but aside from that, they treated me like they would any other person in the community. Unfortunately, I let it go to my head (hence the warning) and sometimes made matters worse at school because I'd start letting my mouth run while retaliating, thinking that my superior intellect and maturity would eventually win them over.None of it is permanent-- the lack of maturity in some of your classmates, the pettiness of the squabbles they decide to pick with you, all of it. Life moves on and so do you.
3-18-2011 @ 2:58PM
I'm gonna have to say do what will give you the most enjoyment in your day-to-day life. In regards to the cost, I'll put this in perspective for you: I'm a college student double-majoring in Biology and History. This summer, I'm either working as an EMT-in-training, or as a lab assistant in a neurobiology research lab (if the EMT thing falls through). As you can immagine, these are some of the hardest majors around with some of the greatest time-commitments available to me. What do I do on the weekends? I play WoW with my girlfriend. It is literally the ONLY time I can play WoW, two days a week, and I STILL take the metro to the nearest Best-Buy every two months to keep my account up. It is worth THAT much to me. What am I doing in WoW? I run old dungeons with my guild for achievements and fun, we run BWD for progression, and we generally hang out and help leveling guildies with quests and dungeons. I do all that just two days a week. Just because you don't play often, doesn't mean it's not worth it.Now, none of my RL friends (besides my GF) play WoW, and I am not fond of any of the people on-campus who play WoW, but the haters here have learned from me. How? When they make fun of me, I just tell them what WoW is, and I'm going to re-use a phrase I used on a breakfast topic a long time ago:WoW is like a local basketball court. When you go in to play, you can practice dribbling, shoot hoops, and have fun, but it's better when you bring friends with you. When you have friends with you, you can team up, play against and with each other, learn what they are like in the heat of a tense moment. But in some ways it's better than a local basketball court. When you show up, and people are already there, there's always room for you to play, everyone is always spoiling for a Pick-Up-Game, the rules are set in stone, and best of all, everyone knows who's skins and who's shirts the moment they step onto the court. THAT is what WoW is, the excitement, intensity, camaraderie, conflict, and rush of victory of a good ball game, all set with a backdrop of a story epic enough to rival the likes of Lord of the Rings, the Icelandic Sagas, or even Star Wars (Strictly the Original Trilogy). Nowadays, my friends still don't play WoW, but they listen with interest when I tell them of my guild's Glorious wipes and boss-kills, the drama inherent in Heroic PuGs where the shaman healer decided Lava-burst really is worth using his mana on, and the simple satisfaction in finding a rich Pyrite Node while doing Tol'Barad quests.
3-19-2011 @ 1:47PM
From the standpoint of a person in the same situation; whether or not to play WoW based on the opinion, I'm going to point out a path that actually hasn't bee mentioned yet. Play whichever one you like. If it's Xbox, then great. Play with your friends, be a cool kid. If it's WoW, then equally great. Play with your *online* friends, be cool there. Just dont let the schoolfriends know you play WoW. If they don't know, then they cannot classify you as an 'uncool nolife gamer'. I'm afraid to say that, in thE school I go to, at least, this is your best option. It sucks to effectively live two lives; one online and one IRL, but it's the easiest method. Honest. @Robin I'm afraid to say that for the first time in a Drama Mamas article, I'm going to have to disagree with you. Telling the 'cool kids' that they don't know what WoW is like will do eff all. They'll tell you that they aren't sad, and don't play sad games, or they'll ignore you completely. Worst case, they'll ask you to show them, and take the opportunity for even more laughing when you do. You said that their opinion doesnt matter. I'm sorry, but I beg to differ. Their opinion may be entirely incorrect and uninformed, but the opinion if your schoolpeers *does* matter, as a schoolkid. You spend your life there; they are the people you have the most contact with. You can try and ignore them, (contrary to the old adage) they won't go away. You can argue with them, they'll be having the time if their lives. The only way is to influence their opinion, either by doing the cool thing or by telling them that you are. These types of people normally have the thought processing ability of a lump of granite; it shouldn't be too hard. (All this from the perspective of a 15 year old UK schoolkid. And I have to agree eh the other commenters; some of the 15 years olds posting here seem extraordinarily mature.)
3-19-2011 @ 1:56PM
anuillae,In no way do I think he, you or anyone should tell the cool kids they are uninformed or don't know. No no no. It's none of their business, you won't convince them, you'll cause more drama and get more grief. That's not what I'm saying when I talk about honing your anti-uninformed-opinion skills. But in no way should you listen to them either, because their opinions are uninformed and inaccurate. And in no way should you listen to the bazilliions of other uninformed opinions you will encounter for the rest of your life. Get informed yourself, form your own opinions, ask the opinions of others who are informed and that you respect ... this is how you should make decisions.
3-19-2011 @ 2:20PM
Robin,Later in life, maybe. Now? At school? These people are the people who shape your life, sad as it is. When you grow up, they may mature and have the sense to leave you alone if they don't agree with you - I don't know, haven't experienced it. At the moment, not so much. They will not leave you alone.Right now, you want to stay on the side of these people that means you don't get picked on. Whether that means hiding the truth, or doing what they think is cool, doesn't matter. In the end, the choice is thus; Tell everyone you play WoW, or be popular at school? By popular, I mean not be the brunt of their jokes and teasing...I know it's sad, but in the end you either have to fit in or not fit in. The method in which you fit in is up to you, but for a schoolkid, not fitting in is a pretty painful option.
3-19-2011 @ 2:33PM
So you have to do everything they say, anuillae? No, you don't. Are you thinking I was some kind of cool kid in school and don't know what I'm talking about? No. I was a nerd in every one of the dozen or so schools I went to. I never fit in and was often bullied. I'm saying after going through all of the mental and physical bullying that I went through over the years that the best thing I ever did was enjoy myself on my terms and if that meant having one friend and a lot of grief, it was still better than having 3 friends who weren't really friends (and still a lot of grief).
3-19-2011 @ 3:38PM
Robin,No. No, I am not saying that.You should have fun on your own terms, enjoy the things that you enjoy, make the friends that you want to be friends with. However, needlessly offering yourself up to all the bullying and alienation is silly. Especially when you don't have to.What I am saying here is not that you should forgo everything that you find fun in order to become like the cool kids. You should just not appear to be so different from them. Make yourself look like them and they will not pick on you. It is an ancient defensive technique that evolution has proven to work.Lets have an example here:There are two people, Anuillae and Chris.Anuillae is a girl who plays WoW, DnD, Rift, all sorts of RPG's, tabletop wargames, all the nerdy stuff. She is good friends with others in her year, who, like her, have all sorts of nerdy pastimes.She and her group of friends, however, do not make their hobbies public knowledge. Other people in the school don't tease them, they believe them to be normal people, just like everyone else in the school. They get on OK with the other kids, they don't get bullied or harassed.Chris is a boy plays WoW, DnD, Rift, all sorts of RPG's, tabletop wargames, all the nerdy stuff. He makes it exceedingly obvious; everyone knows. He and his band of friends are generally picked on, laughed at, bullied, the lot.The differences between these two people are minimal. Both are absolute nerds, both play every computer game imaginable. Only Chris, however, is bullied, because Anuillae makes sure everyone else thinks the is the same as them.That;s my point. I'm not saying that you should do everything that the cool kids say, just that you should appear, at least to them, to. It makes it a whole lot more comfortable, and you still get to do what you enjoy.
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