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3-28-2011 @ 7:56AM
Very disturbed by Lisa's response to VT.Lisa - if you are going to contribute to an advice column, irrespective of your agreement or otherwise with those seeking your advice - it helps to have at least some kind of human empathy with that person. You have shown almost none. Whilst kicking people while they are down might seem justified from the perspective of a hard-nosed Sergean Major seeking to 'toughen up' fledgeling recruits, it has little place (or justification) within an advice column.I can only assume that your response was some strange 'tough love' attempt to 'shock' VT into realising his mistakes, and avoiding similar circumstances in the future; however in reality this kind of tactic rarely (if ever) works. It frankly amazes me that I need to resort to such elementary concepts as positive vs negative reinforcement, when the success of the former, and failure of the latter as a motivational tactic is so well known.I am stunned by your (apparent) support of the abusive and public dressing down that VT received from the Raid Leader. Even if VT was wrong on 100% of all counts, even if he acted as the most arrogant, self-entitled brat imaginable (and we have zero evidence to suggest that this was the case) there is still absolutely no excuse for this verbal abuse from a guild officer. Verbal abuse carried out in public channels pushes the problem beyond the realm of credibility.Rather than 'man up and apologise' to this Raid Leader, as you suggested (you may as well have told VT to lower his pants and bend over in front of the RL) I would be not only questioning the RL's fitness to lead a raid, but his overall fitness for guild membership. I asure you that if I was the GM of that guild the RL would be facing some very serious questions right now.
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