WoW Rookie: How to balance life vs. WoW

WoW Rookie actually picks up the occasional question from folks who are more "casual players" than "rookie players." In this sense, I'm talking about people with full-time jobs, families, and other commitments than playing WoW. It's a matter of priority; folks love the game, wish they could put more time into it, but can only squeeze so many hours a week into killing pixel monsters.
Balancing a full life with the wide world of Azeroth is a tricky thing. If there's one true fact about WoW, it's that it has a lot of content. A lot of content. Right off the bat, achieving level 85 can easily take over 24 hours of play time. If you can only spare three hours a week, that's at least a few months to reach maximum level. Even scoring level 85 doesn't mean you've seen all the content; you've barely scratched the surface. Endgame activities like PVP, raiding, and achievements multiply the amount of time it would take to "finish" the game, even if you don't count the ongoing cascade of new content with each new patch.
A reader asked:
I'm having trouble keeping up. I've been playing a few months and I don't know how to keep it going with summer and kids' vacations How do I keep up with it all, and get all the achievements done, without giving up my life? I only have about four hours a week to paly and feel like I'm falling behind. Is it possible to get caught up?
Bad newsHow do you do everything in WoW within a few hours a week?
The unfortunate answer is: You don't. Especially if you're just starting the game, there is no reasonable way for to you to blow through all the achievements, all the instances, all the experience in just four hours a week.
WoW is a truly huge game, and there are a lot of time sinks. Even a well-oiled, veteran 5-man group can take over an hour in a heroic dungeon, let alone the PUGs you're likely to face as a casual player. These dungeons are often considered the core of the game; when you ding 85, you cruise into the dungeons, do stuff to get the best preraid gear possible, and then do other stuff.
New achievements are added every patch, and the old achievements take a very long time to complete. I've considered leveling up a brand new character from zip-to-everything to get a measure of how long it takes to "finish" all contemporary possibilities, but I'm not crazy. Doing "it all" takes many, many hundreds of hours.
Pick and choose
Given that there's no way you can do everything, you need to pick and choose what aspects of the game you want to pursue. Even the playstyle categories we generally hear about take more than a few hours a week. (Battleground PVP is probably an exception here.)
Be realistic about the amount of time you can play the game. By the same token, be realistic about how much time gameplay takes. Here's some ideas of "expected weekly time" each play style takes, if you want to stay contemporary:
- PVE dungeons 4 to 7 hours per week
- PVE raiding 6 to 10 hours per week to get geared, then 4 to 6 actually raiding
- PVP battlegrounds 3 to 6 hours per week, depending on if you're lucky enough to get a quick win in the daily battleground
- PVP arena Usually, 4 to 8 hours, depending on how long it takes you to win enough matches
And there's nothing saying you must "keep up" based on gear. It's probably foolish to even try, if you're not trying to do high-end arenas or raiding. After all, the gear you leveled in is sufficient for most quests.
It's not a competitionThis is the thing that's most important to remember: WoW isn't a competition. You don't need to race anyone to an imaginary finish line. If you chalk up and ignore the idea that you're not pursuing the two admittedly high-end playstyles (raiding and the arena), then you're not hurting anyone by taking your own, sweet damn time.
More importantly, you'll get to see the content eventually. Blizzard is constantly finding ways to help casual players get in to see the raids, such as with the upcoming patch 4.2 nerf to extant raids. If you didn't get to see the content before now, you'll easily be able to pug the content in patch 4.2.
Focus on what you love
Seriously, stay focused on the parts of the game that you love and have fun doing. Do what you can in the time you have, and screw the rest. Not only is that the best option -- that's all you can do.
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Reader Comments (Page 1 of 2)
Lloren Jun 9th 2011 5:29PM
Here's the wall I've been running in to lately. I want to cut back on my wow time and focus more on real life and just play casually. However, I love the story and the new content and getting to feel like I'm part of the adventure killing new bosses and especially bosses that are central to the lore. To do this, I have to stay involved with a guild that is working on progression, and that inherantly requires a heavy commitment of 3-5 nights a week. I know that I can wait until content gets nerfed and then pug it, but that's like telling a Harry Potter fan that they would have to wait til the last movie comes out on DVD to watch it instead of standing in line at midnight on opening night. It's possible.... But it blows!
webaker Jun 9th 2011 5:41PM
This has always been my problem with WoW. I get bored too easily to be one of those people that can spend every waking hour on it; besides such, since I started playing years ago on my brother's and eventually on my own account, my RL has been through drastic changes, I've gone through college while holding down a part time job and having a real life, etc. etc. I love WoW as a stress release and a fun thing to do, but it can be so demanding if you want to actually feel like a "good" player or achieve anything. Example: After five or six years of playing, I finally got a max-level character right before Cata. A human pally. Then cata dropped and -- because I was playing with RL friends, roommates who had similar time restrictions and play styles -- we blew through the new content and hit 85. I got invited to a small guild of very nice people who introduced me to the social dynamics of disembodied voices and helped me work on my tanking, but they were on /all the time/. So if I was kept off WoW for a couple of days, I was suddenly way far behind. That, and I got bored of the repetitive, grinding nature of "getting geared" for end-game content.
Sintraedrien Jun 9th 2011 5:43PM
So . . . Take your time, enjoy yourself, and don't forget to sniff the roses- unless you are a Worgen, in which case DON'T sniff the roses. In fact, just don't sniff.
;) I love my worgen, I cannot stand the sniffing.
Sintra E'Drien of the Ebon Blade (on my stupid-phone)
Hollow Leviathan Jun 9th 2011 5:47PM
Then install the 'addon' Sniff-B-Gone, and mute that snuffling forever.
jfofla Jun 9th 2011 5:46PM
Advice to Rookies from a seven year Vet...pace yourself.
Limit your WOW time to set intervals, if you don't feel like logging in one day, to hell with that day's dailes.
By doing this, I have never unsubbed and I have never, not for a moment, been bored in 7 years of WOW.
Crowqueen Jun 10th 2011 7:53AM
Same here. I've taken months out but over the last two years have always come back and never bothered unsubbing because even during the breaks I used to log on occasionally to do a dungeon or two. I'm going back to university in the autumn to do a postgraduate degree and may consider unsubbing, but I think, "once a WoW player - always a WoW player".
roellish Jun 9th 2011 5:51PM
I like to ask myself the following question when dealing with this type of dilema: If WoW were to go absolutly perfect and the very best thing possible were to happen is there anything about my family that I would give up to have that thing happen. So far the answer is nothing which is why I am suprised about the reader's concern they are falling behind. Seems more like they're putting their time to better use.
Croe Jun 9th 2011 5:58PM
As bizarre as it might seem, I still see people in trade chat trying to get raiding groups together for old WOTLK content, and they are still asking for achievements.
With the kind of attitude, the casual player would really need friends to see older content.
Meh to those recruiters, say I!
Vector Jun 9th 2011 6:04PM
"Over 24 hours" for level 85? Wow, what's your leveling strategy? I just leveled a DK (i.e. start at 55) with no professions at all to distract me, and it still took a few days of playtime (maybe 2-3?)
Kelly Jun 10th 2011 10:15AM
I saw that too! I leveled my warlock (affliction, one of the fastest class/specs to level) with FULL HEIRLOOM gear AND 10% bonus from my guild, and it still took over 5 days played. There are only a few hours in there I could've removed by not working on my professions, but that's it.
I'm hoping it's a typo. If not, I want his leveling strategy/guide
Pam Jun 9th 2011 6:09PM
Life outside of WoW! Say it isn't so!
Fenjay Jun 9th 2011 6:16PM
There are lots of things that you can get done in short playtimes, but you have to think creatively and take a different road than the usual leveling -> 5-mans -> raiding.
For example:
- Play the AH mini-game. There are lots of blogs and other media about the gold-making game now.
- Chase non-dungeon related achievements. Baron's mount, non-current legendaries, exalted reputations, Loremaster etc.
- Trade skills. You can make things to sell on the AH, or do the solo secondaries: fishing or archaeology
- Battlegrounds: you don't actually have to win to make progress. Between Tol Barad and battlegrounds proper, the honor builds up fast.
- Explore old content that you might have missed: vanilla, BC and Wrath dungeons and in some cases raids.
- Level an alt of each class to see how they all play.
- Level an alt on the opposite faction. It's surprisingly different.
All the above are interruptible and you won't be disappointing 4-24 other people if you are called away.
Peebers Jun 9th 2011 6:25PM
Dps Qs are your friend. No I'm not crazy. All those lil profession, quest, reps, cheezmints, and other goals we have fit perfectly in the 20-40mins you wait for a dungeon. That'll prolly kill 2 hours. Especially if you're awesome and chant/gem any upgrades you get. Got an extra two hours and a 100 more points to max alchemy? Q again! I hate prospecting 100 stacks of obsidium, but if i'm in Q it doesn't seem as bad.
lsprof4 Jun 9th 2011 6:34PM
I think it's just some people's competitive natures (like mine) which are naturally drawn out by this type of activity...and that's one reason i enjoy this game so much, I appreciate having this outlet. But I also understand the difficulty of balancing the desire to push for whatever form of advancement (gear, bosses, cheevos) you may find stimulating in game with the responsibilities and enjoyment of life outside as well. Unfortunately it's not like you can just flip the switch and begin enjoying the game in a different, more casual way. But I don't think you need to, either. Maybe just having a plan for how you want to spend your limited amount of time playing and then developing realistic goals based on that schedule can give you the enjoyment you seem to be looking for. And don't forget, we all pretty much start over with each expansion anyways.
Hunter Jun 9th 2011 6:47PM
I use to play ALOT and had to quit because WoW was just taking up too much of my life and I was ignoring other projects. I did came back, but I also had to admit there are just things in WoW I can't do because of time and my complete lack of desire to socialize in WoW.
1) Admit you can't do all the stuff you want. I used to try to raid, PvP, run dungeons, play the AH, level all my skills on all my 'toons and do the dailies. Now, I just run dungeons, level a few skills on my 'toons and do a couple of dailies ever other day. Makes my WoW life fun and not stressful.
2) Set a time limit. I play 1 1/2 to 2 hours max about 4 or 5 times a week. I just can't sink anymore time into WoW. Get an alarm clock if you have to.
3) Don't be afraid not to keep up with other players or the latest content. I personally don't care about 4.2, since I am still deep into 4.1 and don't see running out of that content for a few months. I also disconnected my WoW experience from my guild. They are great people, but I can't raid or do things with them anymore.
4) You can also look at cutting other useless things out of your life instead of WoW. My wife and I cut off the cable TV and so I took the TV watching time and just slid it over to WoW time. I am now much happier. While playing WoW won't make you smart, it won't rot your brain like TV does.
5) I don't hang out and chat with guildies or other people in WoW. I go and read a book or talk to my wife instead. When I am playing WoW, I am playing WoW, not socializing. I have to admit, this might not work everyone.
Gamermum Jun 10th 2011 10:13PM
I really love this article AND the comments people have made. It has restored my faith in the WoW gaming community. i recently left WoW after 6+ years to play RIFT because I had been feeling bored, pressured and just plain awful over the last few months. I'm a Mum of 2 with a fulltime job & busy RL, and I always felt cheated because I could never "keep up with the cool kids". So I started doing other things like achievements, exploring, levelling professions etc..and i was enjoying it. But "the cool kids" kept bringing me down, making me feel like I wasn't a REAL WoW player because I didn't farm Heroics or raid, and my entire gaming focus wasn't on gearing up and being leet. So I left. But you guys who have commented so far have made me feel alot better about how I play the game. It's nice to know I'm not the only one out there, so thankyou :)
Revnah Jun 10th 2011 4:07AM
I used to be this full-time WoW addict, neglecting about every other aspect of my life in favour of the game. I had soooo much to do! I had tons of characters, every profession imaginable, achievements, etc. And that was killing me, and most of all, my social life.
For me personally the way to WoW Zen and balance was focusing on a few characters only. I have "two mains" on the Horde side and one on the Alliance side, and I will only very occasionally log on to one of my other characters. The feeling that I have to do it all on many characters was what got me so addicted. Now I'm fine staying away and just spending an evening reading, and my friends see a lot more of me than they used to.
DayDreamer Jun 10th 2011 5:01AM
I think this struggle to balance life VS WoW is difficult because WoW is designed to drive you to play it. It's designed to make you go, "Oh, I want to do that. ...and this, and that, and the other thing. Oh, I can do that too?" and suddenly it's all on you to resist.
People SHOULD have the skills to handle that kind of thing, but they don't always, or maybe their skills aren't perfect.
Personally, while I'm finally finding a place for myself in a new guild and actually taking part in group activities which make me want to keep playing, I want to start playing less.
I had wanted to just unsub and come back in a few months when everything's nerfed and I can just buy T12 for justice points and go stomp the 4.0 raids with my overgeared self, but I suspect being drawn into guild activity will once again require me to sit every day with a cake in front of me and somehow learn NOT to keep eating it. *sigh*
We'll see. If I can do raiding without stressing myself out, I'll keep at it. If I can learn to quit stressing out in general, I'll keep at it. If I burn out, I go back to plan A and unsub.
DayDreamer Jun 10th 2011 5:05AM
I'm not sure where he gets those numbers in the article.
You only need one hour to do a single PVE dungeon, even heroic. 4 hours a week means you could do 4 dungeons. It's a slow pace, but you could get drops, rep, and justice/valor points to afford to buy complementary equipment.
You do have to chose your priorities, but there's no reason you can't aim for something a few months from now. Even if the gear you were first aiming for becomes obsolete, by the time you get those points you'll be able to get better gear.
adamjgp Jun 10th 2011 9:11AM
One wipe will kill your 1hr goal of a heroic, and wipes are common in LFD groups. My guild can run through the new Zul'Again heroics in about an hour, and we can even get through some of the 4.0 heroics in under an hour if we're on point. The reason we can hit these times is that we're comfortable with each others' play styles, we use vent, and we're all 359+ geared.
It is unreasonable to expect every group to make it through a dungeon in an hour, especially if they're a LFD group.