Drama Mamas: Rivals for love

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7-29-2011 @ 1:31PM

Shinae said...

Love triangles may make for great movie and book material, but it really sucks to actually be in one.

Great advice from the Mamas. To sum up my similar thoughts, "Does Not Stand" needs to focus on being a just a friend with SH, even backing off to just an aquaintence if necessary, to let his feelings for her subside.

He needs to focus on being a good friend to DT in order to stay friends. He should exercise some patience and restraint to back off from "friendly" teasing and to let arguments drop.

It will be hard, but he's got to stay out of whatever may happen between DT and SH. The most he can do is confide in DT that it would hurt him to see DT with SH and to humbly ask DT to take that into consideration as his friend. Hopefully, DT will not put his own desires at the risk of a friendship. There are other girls out there that these guys can date without stepping on each others' toes.

7-29-2011 @ 3:41PM

Hyacintha said...

Agreed about love triangles sucking. I've been in one and didn't follow Shinae's advice, which made it suck worse. As much as you might feel like the object of your affections is the perfect one for you, you have to back off and stop obsessing over him or her. Otherwise you'll only make yourself miserable and may ruin some friendships along the way.

I would also recommend NOT sharing very personal life details with your crush, as that will only encourage a (sometimes false) sense of intimacy. No reason you can't still talk to her, but you definitely shouldn't be pouring your heart out. If you really need a confidant, you should try to find a close friend you're not sexually attracted to and confide in private, not guild chat.

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