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8-01-2011 @ 4:58PM
I feel the pain of the Hurt Paladin here. I have been there. On the one hand, guilds change. It is unlikely that this guy will stop saying the sorts of things he has been saying. On the other hand, you are unlikely to find another guild that will let you raid with them once a week. There are a lot of guilds that would welcome a healadin who tries hard and who is consistently available twice a week. Still even in a great guild it will take a long time to develop strong friendships again.My advice is to hold conversations in /tell with the guild leader, the vocal rude guy and the other healers asking for specific advice (pretty much in that order). If I understand your situation correctly they may not have anything further to say at this point other than gearing up. Whatever they say, try to be very positive and happy that they took the time to chat with you. After that if the non-specific put downs in vent during raids continue, whisper the guild/raid leader *when it happens* that you need to talk to him after the raid about what the dude just said on vent. This is not to start a discussion during raid, just to flag it in his mind so he knows what you are talking about when you bring it up later. When you get a chance to talk to the leader tell him how you felt. Be specific. Don't make threats and don't get insulting. Try not to argue if the leader justifies or excuses what the rude guy said. Just communicate where you are coming from, how you feel about it. This may very well not change anything in the short term but in the long term it could have a big impact that could help your guild.The next step would be muting the rude/vocal guy unless he is the one laying out the official fight strats etc. If that were the case he would be a defacto co-leader for the raids and his criticisms are officially part of the raid. You would have to decide if the overall experience is worth your time.
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