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9-12-2011 @ 9:11AM
Listen. If they couldn't already tell you're young from your behavior, then chances are you're mature enough that your age won't matter. Lisa said it best: let your actions speak for themselves. If your age still bothers them, then there are likely other reasons (like language in guild chat) or they just have stigmas about minors (like Mom grounding you from the computer, or calling you to take out the trash mid-raid).If you can squash those concerns, and there are clearly no maturity concerns (or else they'd probably have suspected your age by now) then you should be home free. As long as they have no language concerns that is.I admit, I'd feel a little off-put by a young tank, too, but only one I don't know well. One of my best in game friends is four years younger than me, meaning he was a minor when we met six years ago. But he's also ridiculously mature, even for his age back then. In the end, while people can have certain preconceptions about age, it's just a number. If you can prove that it's just a number, then you've got a great shot at staying in your guild.If not, don't despair. And next time be honest about your age before you get into a guild. There are a lot of family friendly raiding guilds out there.
9-12-2011 @ 2:09PM
"If they couldn't already tell you're young from your behavior, then chances are you're mature enough that your age won't matter."I agree with this sentiment. That being said, I would like to answer the letter writer's question here:Get a voice modification program to make your voice sound a little deeper. Not Barry White deep, but just so that you don't sound like a 6 year old girl (if, say, you're a 15 year old boy).I'm betting a lot of people will disagree with me, but sometimes it's flat out better to lie, and maintain the lie, if it makes things easier. Don't tell people you are 30 or something like that, but say you are like 17... still a minor, but pretty much at that magic age of 18.It seems like his problem with his age solely a voice-chat issue... his voice sounds probably very high and youngish. That is why I recommend a voice-chat mod that deepens your voice. Make sure you test it before you use it though! And if anyone besides your GL asks your age, tell them that it's none of their business.
9-12-2011 @ 5:15PM
@PyromelterI can't hang with deception, man. If his guild is superficial enough that they'd chuck the kid for being a kid, then imagine what happens when (because this stuff ALWAYS comes out) his modulation software is discovered? As a more eloquent soul then I once put it: "Ohh yeah, $#*! just got real up in this $%^*#."He may have to try harder to prove himself as a youngster, not particularly fair, but what is in life? But if he was found out to be a liar? At BEST he'd have a bunch of folks mad at him for deception. Worst he could get Gkicked so fast he'd bounce, or set himself up where that could be used against him less pleasant people who may figure it out before others do.Turmoil, if you're reading this, I agree with the Mamas. (And as everyone knows, the opinion of the average schmoe on teh Intartubes Counts For Something, heh) Tell the GL in a controlled, private setting, apologise sincerely, succinctly, but *not excessively* if you encouraged a mis-understanding regarding your age, and face the results with your head held high. Apologise for NOTHING ELSE. You're the same person they've trusted up to now, all that's different is you've clarified any misconceptions. Heck, if your GM is the kind of stand-up-guy I'd hope for, he'll make an announcement before your "on-air" debut, making note of your desire to clear the air and supporting you as the bang-up tank they all know.
One more thing! Brace yourself for some ribbing. It will almost certainly happen, gamers love to tease, but that's fine. I'm sure you know, but be careful of taking offense when it's not intended, a joke about your age is not always an insult. Don't be defensive. *YOU* ain't got a thing to prove that you haven't already. Even if you DO catch some attitude for your age, don't snap back. If you're defensive, arguementative, or you get upset (understandably) if you DO get insulted, some folks may take it (UNFAIRLY!) as a sign that you're just not ready for the guild. When in doubt, silence is golden, and the more rudely someone acts towards you, the more rapidly others will realize *the other guy* is a jerk if you don't get aggressive in response.Just stay calm, and remember: When you REALLY want to snap back at someone is the exact time you should NOT do that. It's a trap, and you're smarter than that.You'll be fine, Turmoil. Stay Calm and Carry On!
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