Based on your current armory profile, at 45, you are using 3 mail pieces and 3 int/spellpower pieces, including the shield. The main hand weapon is an agi weapon.

You berated your husband for not casting Hand of Protection on you. So...as the tank, you want your aggro wiped and to not be able to attack physically? It also causes Forebearance, which prevents you from using Lay on Hands for the next 60 secs, in case you get an "Oh shit!" moment, which, if you're asking for Hand of Protection, you probably will. And those are just the things that jump out at me from doing a quick look at your armory profile.

So why am I doing this? Because in the one post I read about your tanking exploits, you appeared quick to belittle, mock and blame your husband (your healer) for his shortcomings and for the issues (read: frequent wipes) you were having in your random group. You expect infinite patience from the random group and from your healer, but seem to have little to none for your husband, who is probably also learning his role, as you are. You write about sighing at him and jumping down his throat when he asks a seemingly innocuous question in party chat. ("What happened?") In a word, you seem to ignore to your own shortcomings in order to point out his to deflect blame and for the amusement of your readers.

Granted, I only read the one post and tanking for random groups IS brave. But this is what happens when you put yourself out there in a blog. You can't always expect the "hee hee you go girl" comments. You open yourself up to feedback, good and bad. I don't know you beyond reading a few posts on your blog and have no idea what your husband's gear, talents, addons, etc., are like. But speaking as an endgame paladin healer/tank, a fellow blogger, and a husband, I think you are all too ready to lay blame on your husband and haven't taken a good, hard, critical look at your character...or your real life behavior.

And to anyone who wants to downrate me: Go ahead. Downrate me into oblivion. But do yourself a favor and read the blog first. You may have an "Oh..." moment.