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10-03-2011 @ 10:21AM
Okay... First time I read the OP's letter, I got a negative reaction in myself. I went to do some things around the house so I could come back and look at the letter with fresh eyes (and a full stomach). Twice I've read the letter since then and I'm still getting a negative reaction.As Robin says, the OP perpetuated the drama by posting something on Facebook. Beyond that, the moment you add someone from WoW onto your FB friends' list, you're already erasing the line between RL and the game. Did you really expect your friends from the guild to *not* see the post, then put two and two together? And, on top of that, making *any* sort of "emo post," as my husband would call it, on Facebook or otherwise just invites drama. Like I said, when I read the letter again and again, I got a LOT negative vibes from it. I honestly tried to sympathize with the OP but I... just... can't. I'm not trying to be argumentative and perhaps, as I list the things I had a problem with, someone else can jump in and clarify the OP's point(s) to me. Yes, I do get a little snarky as I go along-- I apologize beforehand. But I'm actually really really hoping that I'm wrong and someone can set me straight. Downrate me, if you must, but I'm hoping more for constructive discussion. /cast flame wardThe equation worked out like this when I read the letter:1. You leave the guild but remained friends with some people, despite not separating yourself out from the group that left during the mass exodus, nor their reasons/intentions for leaving.2. You had your adventures elsewhere and decided, for whatever reason, to return to your old server *and* guild.3. Upon your return, you expected your "friend" status to rocket you to the upper echelons of the guild. It didn't.4. Things weren't panning out the way you wanted them to. You're, once again, dissatisfied: with the game, with your situation, everything.5. You're the best geared hunter and 7th on the server overall. You expect your guild to be grateful for you to returning to them, gracing them with the opportunity to bask in your presence.6. They're not grateful for your presence, not in the least. You take this as "hostility."7. You do things for kudos (achievement and volunteering to change from main to heal a dungeon), expecting that to rocket you to the upper echelons of the guild (since your former status didn't work). It also didn't.8. As a result, you now feel "victimized" and "underappreciated."9. You go to your personal public networking site to vent your frustrations, thinking that leaving the game means nothing from the game should bleed into RL.10. It does bleed through because, SURPRISE! you're friends on FB with people from your guild! Imagine that. You didn't mention names YET everyone knows you're not an alt person. Hmmm, whatever could you possibly be talking about?!I honestly thought that people from the guild had put nasty comments and the sort on the OP's Facebook wall, or said something nasty about the OP in a Facebook group for the guild and/or server. But reading all of this and garnering what I could from the OP's story, it just reeks of, "Someone somewhere give me the pity I feel like I so duly deserve!" Tack on the public ultimatum (on Facebook no less), and it's just a terrible cry for attention. Again, this was my reaction-- after three readings-- and I hope I misread something. But... Ugh...Good luck. I truly hope the OP finds a place where they're content and happy and can enjoy the game because, after all, it IS a game and, if you're not having fun, there's no point to it. But there needs to be some adjustments because, otherwise, the OP will *never* be happy, no matter where they go.
10-03-2011 @ 10:43AM
What I got from this is that "Victim" is a child or a very young teen. It just smacks of immaturity all around. I pretty much agree with everything you got out of it.Reading between the lines it makes me wonder if the OP was one of "those guys" on that particular healing run. Did you criticize the other hunter? It definately sounds like you picked on the tank. Were you criticizing everyone else doing an easy holiday boss? A holiday boss with guildies that is silly fluffy fun? If so...then no wonder they decided they wanted someone else to heal for them. At any rate, I believe all the drama was self inflicted.
10-03-2011 @ 2:38PM
@ravyncatI understand why you think so, and I'd like to agree, but in my experience many so-called "adults" never move past that stage. I can easily imagine the OP (who is no "victim" except in his own mind) in his 20s or even older.
10-03-2011 @ 4:15PM
Someone only in their 20's is still a kid to me...lol. XDAnd yes I know it could be someone much older, but I am choosing to give them the benefit of the doubt. The tone just reminded me of things children have said to me before in conversations.
10-03-2011 @ 4:49PM
Hey, I'm 20-something!! D:A couple of days ago, one of my guildmates-- an older (40+) gentleman, mind you-- actually said that I was "very mature for a 24yo." It was hilarious because I haven't had anyone say, "You're very mature for a(n) X-year-old" since my early teens and, in my mind, anything past 21 means you're supposed to be and act like an upstanding adult. Just thought it funny and fitting for this conversation.On-topic, it's true that people, no matter their chronological age, will be putzes if they don't mentally age as well. I also understand where Ravyncat is coming from, though. I'd much rather deal with an immature kid than an immature adult. The former is understandable to an extent; the latter is just sad. (See: several lines above on acting like an adult by a certain age.)
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