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10-17-2011 @ 6:27PM
In WoW vs Relationship, relationship should *ALWAYS* win. I`d say forget the whole endeavour of returning to WoW. You`ve been away for two years, and it`s been good, right? Why mess with that considering the past?If you`re being honest about enjoying your time with your girlfriend in WoW more than anything else in-game, guess what? You already have the best part of WoW without playing it - your girlfriend. You don`t need the game to have those fun, memorable bonding experiences together. Pick a new hobby, or a different game at least, for the two of you to experience together. A lot of surface level stuff has changed in WoW, but ultimately it still runs on the same principles that so easily suck people in and lead them to neglect other aspects of their life. Every moment you play the game itself will be encouraging you to level, get gear, do heroics, do dailies, raid. Do do do. Grind every day. My advice in this case is not to play with fire.
10-18-2011 @ 9:08AM
Be careful of universal statements. There are absolutely going to be times when WoW--or some other activity--is going to win out over a relationship. This is because *not all relationships are healthy ones,* and *not every person is your perfect match*. It's *okay* for partners to have separate activities and interests; you're not required to spend every waking moment with someone else. And sometimes, you're engaged enough in a hobby that you might want to ensure that you find a partner who shares it.Always choosing some other activity over spending time together with your partner? That's a problem. But if a partner is objecting to a particular activity, when it only takes up a reasonable amount of time, just because they don't enjoy it, then the problem may be the partner.For this couple, assuming the WoW fan can keep to a reasonable play schedule, it could be what Dan Savage refers to as a "price of admission" issue. The price of admission to the relationship for the girlfriend is that the boyfriend is going to be playing WoW for X hours every week; and the price of admission for the boyfriend is that he can't be on all night, every night. There has to be a happy, reasonable medium between "WoW 40 hours a week" and "no WoW ever."
10-18-2011 @ 4:04PM
@Sleutel: Yay Dan Savage reference! Looking at it from the other end though, it could be that the price of admission to keep dating the gf may be "stay away from things that led to problems in the past." To be honest, I haven't seen much that suggests that Clueless is the big catch here; it may be the gf who is the beloved here. We don't know. (Did Clueless get a new job?) But it would be good for them to have a sit down talk to hash out why WoW could be seen as a problem, and why it is desirable to play WoW specifically (as opposed to some other joint activity).
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