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11-07-2011 @ 10:41AM
I used to be in this exact situation. I played with a friend of mine for hours every day for about a year, and I always chose what to do, especially towards the end. A few times at first she made a suggestion, but when I started getting to a stage where I really didn't want to play a particular alt it dropped off. We had quite a few pairs we could work on, some characters to RP, dungeons to hit and dailies to do... but she stopped choosing, and I always had to. I often said "You decide!" or "I'm tired of choosing, I always choose" but it went nowhere. If I wasn't the one to decide, we did nothing.I eventually got really tired of it and refused to choose as well, thinking that maybe she'd be forced into deciding. I'd go, "Do you feel like X or Y?" and she'd hmm and think and... never give me a straight answer. She'd try to get me to answer for her (and admitted to this), but I had enough and just stopped. It wasn't that she didn't want to play with me; she'd still log on for the same time every day, she just didn't do anything when she did this time. (And so did I, until I started logging on less because I didn't like the time that was going down the drain.)For about a month we barely played with each other at all once I'd stopped choosing for her, and the only times we did was when I got fed up and chose anyway. Eventually RL tore me away from the game and we don't play together at all anymore. I don't think we will again 'cause RL is only going to get busier. I think she was insecure; she was a very timid person and rarely, if ever, spoke up. The only time she spoke up was in my defence when I was very upset, and even then she did it in a joking manner that felt more mocking because she was so desperate to avoid conflict.I don't know what to do, but just don't do what I did! It doesn't work.
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