@Nagaina

well dick is my name because its my last name and its part of my e-mail address and I don't have an account because i usually don't comment, so thank you.

We don't know how the GF feels, but as I said, if she feels that her "friendship" is more important than her relationship with her boyfriend then their are bigger problems.

No he can't dictate what she does, but if you care for someone, and you are doing something that they don't like, you usually do what you can to stop it. Once again it comes down to which relationship she values more.

Phoning and texting guild-mates is different than talking to someone everyday and driving 12 hours to visit someone of the opposite sex that is also 20 years younger than you.

I may be completely wrong, but i think your situation is different because I am assuming you are more mature than she is, and it is easy for you to keep relationships platonic. Have you ever visited or been visited by someone 20 years younger or older than you of the opposite sex.

You know the old saying, when there is smoke there is fire, and there is a lot of smoke right now.