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11-14-2011 @ 4:17PM
Quote Nagaina" We don't know *how* the OP's girlfriend feels about any of this -- in fact, by his own admission, he has not put their relationship on the line for her to either keep or end, merely voiced some vague misgivings with which she does not agree"Agreed, and of course we don't know what exactly was said... but you know what? Maybe its not about him putting the relationship on the line... because doing that often is not working if you "win" at first.The problem is that he is feeling quite uncomfortable about it, and frankly, I can't blame him. But even if Id go "Hey, its prolly nothing, I am sure they are great friends, I bet they have so much to talk about", the fact is that it makes him feel quite uncomfortable, he doesn't know what is going on. He is not going "Hey, you're my girl, so stop that" or whatever, he is just feeling uncomfortable.So I dunno, I of course don't know them, but my question would be... if he tells her he is uncomfortable about it, why doesn't she try to take his doubts away, to be totally open if there is nothing to worry about.Yes, that guy is her friend, but the guy who wrote this is her boyfriend. So how about, instead of meeting the guy by herself, bring him along, try to ntroduce them? What I am trying to say is: When I notice that my girlfriend is totally uncomfortable about any situation, I try to show her that there is nothing at all to worry about... because she is my girlfriend, and deserves that. If I go "Oh come on, just dont worry"... that sometimes just doesnt really help much.So to me, its not about him putting it onto the line, Id wish that she'd notice that her boyfriend is confused and uncomfortable with the situation (and the things he listed dont sound like he is over-possessive, as in "Hey, you can not talk to ANY man ever" or something)Whether you're married or just bf/gf, I think one of the things you should try to do is stuff like this... trying to make sure there are no worries like that, and if a situation is hard to read, try to clear it up, or maybe involve your loved one to show him there is nothing to worry about.Then again, just my opinion
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