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12-12-2011 @ 11:06AM
As always, Scott has very good advice. The only thing I would disagree with is this: "As far as what you should say, there isn't much you can say that won't just make the situation worse."Personally, I think you *should* say something, especially if you remove the characters of the couple in question. If I were in that position, I would tell the guy (no point talking to the girl anymore IMO) that I'm going to remove all of their characters from my guild since I can't have them actively taking players from our guild and still be part of it, and tell him I'm sorry to see him go and I always appreciated him. (Assuming I did.) I'd probably wish him good luck in that relationship of his. (And not mention that if his "reason" is real I feel sorry for him.)Then, assuming people are online, I would tell them something like "Hey guys, X and Y have decided to start their own guild, and in order to best keep the peace around here, I'll be removing their characters. They're aware of this, and I've wished them the best in their new adventures. If anyone has any questions, I'd be happy to answer them, just whisper me."/gkick (Insert all necessary toons here)"Ok, that's it. Sorry for the disruption. Anyone need anything while I'm on? I'll be around a bit longer before I go _________."Now, granted, I'm the approachable, talkative, social relations person in my guild, so people would know I'd done a lot behind the scenes and not freak out once I'd said something like that. I would probably get a fair amount of whispers and have budgeted a good half hour for private discussions.I would also probably spend some time, either before or after that, trying to find out what's really going on with those who are leaving, especially if there was someone involved that I was close to. "Hey, you know I want you to enjoy playing, so I support you playing wherever you like, I'm just curious if you can give me any insight about what's going on here and what I might be able to do to make things go better for everyone, no matter where they end up playing."Scott didn't address it, but I'd be willing to bet the girl is seriously pressuring people, and that the boyfriend is not an entirely unwilling accomplice. If I can find that suspicion to be true or false, it would modify my address to the guild. If it was true, I'd probably add something like "If anyone is being bothered by those who have left, I'm here to back you up however I can. I want everyone to enjoy playing however and wherever they want to without being pestered by others." If something else is going on, I'd make some other approriate modifications.I don't know if these guild leaders have that kind confidence and trust from their guild members. I hope they do. If so, I think saying something would definitely be in line, to assure people you know what's going on and that you're handling it in a timely and appropriate manner. This OP definitely sounds like they are trying to do just that, and I wish them the best as they manage this tough situation.
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