"The second world war was a war that needed to be done as hitler and co were totally mental but neither side came out of it clean"

I was going to debate you, but then you did this. This makes my point for me. This is the true nature of war, and it needs to be in the story. Leaving aside every other point you make: as I know you know you're deliberately leaving out how the precision bombing of the American Army Air Force was completely ineffective and caused horrendous US casualties, I know you know you're leaving out how Germany was not surrendering but rather drafting children and the elderly to fight, and I know you know that not a single person was convicted of a war crime in relation to Dresden or Hamburg, the fact remains:

War is all hell.

People make horrific choices in war.

Arguing that the story should be sanitized of that aspect of personal nature is foolish. Even as you pretend to present Dresden and the air war objectively (you're not, you know: you're leaving out how the attempt to push into Europe via purely military bombing was a pure failure that extended the war by at least a year, and I can tell that you've read enough to know that - how many died in camps in that year's time? We both know the answer to that one is "too many") you make my point for me. Presented with acting with pure military honor and losing all of their air force, or sacrificing their ideals and actually winning the war, the Allies chose to sacrifice their ideals.

It's just like Operation Greif, which I'm sure you're familiar with. Germany knew it was losing. It didn't surrender, it just dressed up soliders in Allied uniforms and sent them to sabotage behind enemy lines in violation of the Geneva Convention. Every war has stories like this. Andersonville comes to mind.

As you said, neither side comes out clean. It's time to show that.