I think the key difference (for me at least) is that when I'm looking at the meters, I'm comparing myself to...well, me, the last time I ran it. I constantly tweak my gear or (more recently) the priority system as to whether its better to delay chimera for .25 a second to finish an extra aimed shot or to settle for an arcane shot-- a problem that the jury is still out on as I haven't seen conclusive proof, either way.

I see the other bars there, sure, but they aren't my concern. As long as stuff is dying without a problem and no one else is pitching a bitch-fit, the numbers are safe with me.

Now, when they start trying to dig up drama I can get a bit nasty. Not usually, mind, but today I lost it at a Ret. pally that tried to shame the healer into leaving after the first wipe. It was normal Stonecore, and the first run there (on those toons at least) for everyone that wasn't me. Nobody interrupted, and said pally kept breaking my CC on the Earthshaper. He complained that he had gotten no heals, and I ever so nicely reminded him that A) he was not the tank and B) unlike me, he was capable of healing himself if he could be bothered to do it.

He was surprisingly nicer after that, and the run ended pleasantly enough despite some rather slipshod pulling by the guy that was the tank ^^; .