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2-27-2012 @ 2:33PM
Great answers from the Mamas! I'm actually kinda surprised that this lady even has to ask the question in the first place...Sure, being in a relationship means doing things that are more or less obligations and are not always enjoyable, such as visiting with the in-laws. But when it comes to something that should be fun? Why on earth would she think that has to force herself to do arenas or feel guilty if she doesn't? What kind of guilt trip is he laying on her, especially when it's perfectly acceptable that he doesn't participate in the WoW activity that she likes, i.e. raiding?I also have a husband who does not like raiding, and I really enjoy it. Our WoW time was a little rough back when we were first discovering this years ago, but since we've identified the clear differences in our playstyles, we're at peace with playing separately. We still have that shared interest in the game, despite not playing together.
2-27-2012 @ 3:15PM
He may not be doing anything, and it just might be her issue. What I mean is, some people are people pleaser's and they're not happy or able to enjoy themselves unless someone else is having fun and enjoying themselves too. Not saying of course that this is the situation there, but in some relationships some people are givers and other takers. Of course not healthy ones necessarily but for some couples this sort of strange dynamic works for the couple so long as the taker, doesn't take more than they should, and the giver takes time off to recharge their own batteries.But it can work.
2-27-2012 @ 3:32PM
You're right, Lipstick. I was only speculating when I mentioned guilt trips. Her guilt could be totally internal and not at all encouraged by her husband. I was just getting worked up by the possible inequality in this matter, but then, we are only reading about it from her perspective.She definitely needs to talk tio him about how much she doesn't like arenas, and hopefully he'll be understanding and support her decision to abstain.
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