As unpopular as Nagaina's sentiment may be to others, I heartily agree with her.

It's up to the girlfriend to decide for herself when a relationship becomes inappropriate; it's not her boyfriend's decision, ever, and especially not when it's based merely on suspicion. If Robby believes that she is cheating, then it's up to him to remove himself from the relationship, not dictate what others do.

Robby sounds so distrustful not only of her but of her whole family. Could it be that her family is encouraging her relationship with the older guy because they like him more than Robby? Or that they understand that she should have a chance to date other people before marrying?

In any case, Robby does not sound like he considers his girlfriend as his equal, but rather a naive little girl to protect. And if my math is correct, when Robby was 18, he was dating a 15 year-old?...

I honestly hope she comes here and sees this batch of responses.

How funny, I read the post and came to the same conclusion.

Except I think Robby should dump her and move on.

Wow. Just wow. So if Robby was having an older woman he met online come to visit him that would be cool?

Let's not call anyone names here okay? Rob's not a douche, his gf isn't a dingbat. They are young adults figuring out this whole boy-girl thing. Many people spend their entire lives never figuring it out. Neither of them seem to be abusive, hateful, drama-whoring, or addicted to drugs or alcohol, or living any kind of criminal lives. Robbie makes himself and his gf out to be two genuinely decent people, and there is something to be said for that.

Now, maybe breaking up would be best for both of them. Maybe it would tear their souls asunder to not be with each other. Maybe they could grow together, or maybe they would be better off having a learning experience from a breakup.

Frankly that's not for anyone to decide, nor is it anyone's place to cast judgement upon them in some sort of blame game.

Further upthread I stated "I fear the worst for his relationship." It's likely that those of us who are older, and have seen stuff like this, see the writing on the wall. The kind of heartache that can come with the breakup of a young love is something that I would hope that people could avoid, because it can be so painful, you might end up doing some very stupid, regretful things, and it can take a very long time to recover from the emotional torment.

@Nagaina,

Wow. Just wow.

I can't believe how unbelievably *tolerant* this guy is being. Foolishly so, in my opinion.

First off, what kind of 40 year old guy comes down to stay with a 19 year old girl he met via WoW? Let alone knowing she has a boyfriend? Sure, it is possible his intentions are innocent...but it isn't likely. You are ready to condemn Robbie for dating a 15 year old when he was 18...but you give the 40 year old perv a pass?

And what kind of girlfriend invites the 40 year old to stay with her? Her boyfriend objecting isn't "controlling" of him, it's common sense. And if he has a little more common sense he'll get out of that relationship, because she is playing him.

19 is way too young for this kind of commitment, and so is 22. Robby and his girl need to take a break from each other. Come back in seven years, see how you feel about each other then.