I agree that calling her a dingbat was uncalled for.

Getting over your first love can be brutal but the process of going through it teaches you a lot about yourself and what is important to you. It took me a couple of major relationships (one of which was 4 years long) before I truly understood what I wanted out of a relationship.

With one's first relationship, one have no reference point... nothing to tell you what your "normal" state is since you're doing all you can to make it work. Some people even forget who they are as individuals. They put up with things they normally wouldn't because they're so desperate to make it work and somehow come together. The problem is that builds resentment at a deep level.

Each time a relationship fails, most people reflect on it and then eventually decide on a few red flags for future prospects. Repeated a couple times, your gut gets good at letting you weed out partners that you really wouldn't be compatible in the long run. It also teaches you how to behave in relationships so when the right one comes along, you'll be the right one for her too. For those of us not blessed enough to find the perfect one on our first attempt, this is how we better our odds of finding happiness.

I guess what I am driving at is that yes, while your first heartbreak will be painful, it will set you up to be much happier in the long run and there is a silver lining.