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3-20-2012 @ 7:54PM
Being a man, I'm not quite sure why women put up with men. I mean, seriously, we're a-holes. Maybe not all, but the ones I've met that aren't jerks are wussy pantywaists. Not a great set of alternatives.Seriously, ladies: men think about one thing from oh, age 12 to perhaps late 20s-early 30s. Some men never grow out of it. Depending on where a girl hits his hot-or-not meter, adjusted for his own self-image, a boyman will say or do nearly anything. Buy a puppy? Sure. Spend himself poor? Sure. Risk his life? Definitely.By and large, the arc of the first couple of decades of a man's life are determined by his search for the opportunity at that. Obsessed with his job? It's because the status, power, and wealth will attract women better. Honest, sweet, and kind? Because he's figured out those are easy buttons to push, but you have to be credible. As a good friend said once: "If you can fake sincerity, you've got it made."Women - even the jaded, cynical ones - have NO idea what that drive is like.And in case people think this is a man-bashing thread, let me point out that (largely) women have controlled the mating of the species for the last couple of million years. Men behave in the manner most likely to ensure our success with...you guessed it, women. Sure, there are plenty of instances where she didn't get to chose the first bit (to put it delicately) but there's no way the offspring of the monster that would do such a thing would survive childhood without the mother's consent.So ladies, we're what you made us. And there is the final irony.No, the final irony is having a daughter, and knowing that no matter how much you try to warn her, she's swimming in a pool of sharks and it's almost impossible that one or more of them won't break her heart.Re the fellow referenced in the letter, he's an ass. He's totally playing you, without risking the relationship he's in. I know, believe me, I know. Just walk away.
3-20-2012 @ 8:07PM
Yes, the guy referenced in the letter is an ass playing the letter writer.The rest of your comment though styopa... I guess all I can say is I hope some day someone teaches you a bit more accurately about how things really work, so that you're not so depressingly cynical. It's really not that bad, especially if you get the right info from the right people that can help you understand current human mating practices.
3-20-2012 @ 8:35PM
Just 'cause you're like that doesn't mean every man is like that, plus, it's not "our fault" you're like that, you did that all on your own!
3-21-2012 @ 12:33AM
The whole of your comment is fairly... yeah, but one thing made me straight up lol.For future reference, for much of history in many areas of the world, a lot of women were used as bargaining chips or put into arranged marriages at the behest of the family, usually the father calling the shots. Women calling the shots in courtship and mating behaviors is actually pretty darn novel. And I am glad that we have it now, but just sayin'. Also, both partners have equal sway in a relationship, it was just that women were far more likely to say 'no' to sex for many reasons. (One, guys are rarely knowledgeable about getting a women to the heights of passion, so casual sex isn't as worth it. Two, the whole pregnancy thing. Three, social stigmas). Studies have shown that when these three aspects are removed, lessened, or the person doesn't care... weeeell, lets just say there is a bit more even ground in most cases.TL'DR- Dude, cynicism is rarely accurate.
3-21-2012 @ 6:18AM
@styopa You have the cynicism of someone very, very young.
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