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4-02-2012 @ 3:52PM
And this part is directed at the other posters and the Mamas in particular: be VERY careful judging the the relationship of this couple!!! It's easy to read into Shannon's statements and assume that the husband, like some have accused, just sits around the house, plays WoW all day and ignores his wife. But it's really unfair to infer things about the couple because we simply don't know anything beyond whatever Shannon voluntarily shares in her letter. So let me just throw out a few things.First, there are many reasons that he wouldn't have a job beyond laziness, not the least of which could be that he simply doesn't need to! There are plenty of single income houses, and I know several stay-at-home dads. I'm personally wondering if there's a subtle sexism behind the assumption that the dude needs to have a job, and that's before we get to other reasons posters have mentioned like disability or inability to find work.Second, I don't get why people assume he's lazy. Any home mom or home dad will tell you that it's not an easy job (yes, a job) doing all the house chores, especially with two children. So what if he plays "many hours a day"- I play "many hours a day" despite working >40 hours a week. Finally to the core of things: none of Shannon's writings directly indicate that she's dissatisfied with the husband's commitment to the relationship, just that she wishes she could also participate in his (and the kids') favorite hobby, but has her reservations. I really think that posters would do well to give the couple the benefit of the doubt and not scold them for perceived relationship flaws where there may not be one! That's EXTREMELY dangerous territory! (Closing statement that I have no factual support for but want to mention: I feel like a lot of people are projecting their own relationship frustrations onto Shannon's letter.)
4-02-2012 @ 4:10PM
Two things I missed:1) You asked "What if I put time/energy/heart and soul into getting my character to a level that can raid, etc and the guild doesn't want me?" This is a very real possibility that you have to keep in mind for two reasons. First, a lot of guilds are set in their roster and may simply not have room for you, at least not without kicking someone out and pissing people off. Second, it can take a while to acquire the skill necessary to play WoW at a high level, and honestly for some people that skill never shows up. Nothing I said should completely discourage you from trying, but keep all this in mind before you invest the time and commitment to gear up a character for raiding. 2) Finally something that really set off a warning flag: you mention being jealous of his relationships with certain guild members- are these females? If so, remember that proper behavior in online opposite-sex relationships is exactly the same as proper behavior in real life opposite-sex relationships. You have a right to (and should) communicate to your husband honestly and sincerely how those relationships make you feel.... if it's a relationship with someone of the same gender, well, boys will be boys.
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