Thank god there are people like you. It's an unpleasant truth that the statement "it's just a remark" is a way to hide from reality. Saying things like this is akin to saying "it's just emotion, get over it". We cannot expect people to just get over things that are rooted in deeper issues and inappropriate mentalities.

We act as if we can't expect men (and plenty of women!) to be better than they are. Some men are beyond saving, but most just need to grow up a little bit. It seems to me that it only takes one woman saying "but I don't mind!" for every man to throw up his hands and claim that this is obvious proof that sexism isn't as serious as it actually is.

What I'm trying to say is that as a culture we need to grow up, and stop clinging to immature concepts.

@Nick

"It seems to me that it only takes one woman saying "but I don't mind!" for every man to throw up his hands and claim that this is obvious proof that sexism isn't as serious as it actually is."

This. Exactly this.

I notice the women who make these remarks are women who have been lucky enough -- LUCKY enough -- not to have been harassed, either.

I have not ever known a single woman who has ever been stalked or harassed to say "I am a woman and I don't mind this." Ever.

@Nick - I completely agree. Perfectly put.