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4-03-2012 @ 10:07PM
Because it's nothing when a male who is to become your leader and thus an authority figure greets you with a) a comment on your attractiveness and b) a comment on your affect on a large portion of the opposite sex, right? Not remotely off-putting or odd.Let's take sexism and abuse out of the equation for a moment and think. If a candidate running for senate--male or female and regardless of your sex--said this to you upon your first meeting, what would be your reaction? What would you say to that? Now maybe senate isn't the best analogy here...how about your boss? Principal? Heck, even a complete stranger, a peer at a bar.Personally, I'd be at least temporarily thrown off-balance as to how to respond, at least until getting a better understanding of this individual and his reasoning for focusing on these things. Unsolicited compliments could possibly be innocuous, but in this specific context it sends up a red flag. Whether it's an attempt to curry my support or a personality quirk is yet to be seen, and I'd be a mite guarded.In any case, it's not unfounded to argue that an authority figure complimenting a woman who is soon to be his charge is inappropriate, and the relationship it establishes duly so. If you have difficulty grasping that, I might recommend imagining how you'd feel if the Dean at your daughter's college orientation greeted her as thus.
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