Oct 29th 2009 2:19PM @Josin - Thankyou for that profound statement, Obiwan. ;)
Oct 14th 2009 5:54PM Would be great to win, though unlikely!
Jul 24th 2009 12:13PM Like the article - there are definitely some people out there who need a 'safe' place for advice... and those too embarrassed to ask that could probably get a lot of good advice out of these posts.
Negative? Nah. They're taking negative things and giving positive advice.
Jul 17th 2009 4:03PM Ok - Craig - the thing here sounds like:
1) AFKing due to phone conversations is a persistent issue. This isn't happening once, twice, etc... it's happening from multiple people and on multiple nights. There is a trend here (as I read it) where these people come back from their phone call, and when asked their answer is -- a friend, my mom, just chatting, etc.
2) How do I know that the phone call is important? We have guildees who occassionally go AFK for a call. How do we know if it's a big deal? THEY TELL US. I have been in a situation once where I got a call from a friend who had a major event in her life and I had to take it. The conversation lasted for 15 minutes, so I quickly typed, "Hey, important call - might take 15 or 30 min. If you want to continue without me, or remove me, I totally understand - but have to be AFK." Including that example, I've had one other situation in the last 3 years, where I had to say - AFK, might not make it back, find a replacement. Then I leave, log out, quit, etc.
As a former GM and Raid Leader, I am quite willing to accommodate people who go AFK. However, repeated behaviors of any type from any individual that display a disrespect for me or the others on our playing team, mean that they might have to sit out for those who can stay for the whole time. My guild has never been hardcore, but we are very successful because we expect that our guildees be considerate of each other: make sure your gear enables you to enter the raid level, be on time, don't sign up unless you show up.
I will generally only answer calls from my husband when I'm raiding, or someone else who is a WoW player who I can say - hey, I'm in a raid at the moment, can you make it quick? And only if I can continue to perform my role in the raid as I do it. If it's a big enough issue, I figure someone will leave a message, and I will check the message immediately just to make sure. 95% of the time it's something that can certainly wait an hour with no difficulties whatsoever.
Apr 13th 2009 3:22PM Personally, I feel your toons reflect who you are. I want to be able to log in and know that the person I'm talking to is who they appear to be.
1) I understand spousal use is a hazy line. I do not, for the record, share my account with my husband. He could probably figure out my password, as close as he is to me, but at one point I was the GM of our guild - and just because you love someone, doesn't mean they are perfect. I think it's pretty selfish of people who are willing to take the chance that RL arguments and drama could potentially wreak havoc in the guild via their shared accounts.
2) As a GM, it's simply bad for the community. We have experienced, and confronted, the following issues:
*Spouses/Friends power-levelling characters. (The account owner then playing a toon they have no idea what to do with).
*Bank misuse - then the player started circumventing restrictions on his character and getting things from guild bank on his wife's toon.
*My guild is generally very helpful, but people who overtly share accounts and play each others toons simply do not develop a good relationship within our community. Guildees are less likely to go out of their way and help them, and resentment issues arise.
2) Our guild makes it clear that we support the ToS and that we do not approve of Account Sharing. Officers are not allowed to share their account information, and retain officer status. (If someone shares an account with their child, we also state that disqualifies them from being an officer with that level of ability until their account cannot be accessed by the child.)
*There is a gray area with spouses, and it's not something we are going to relegate unless an issue arises.
*HOWEVER, the only gray area is relating to family. Friends, neighbors, etc. are out of the picture, and sharing information with them is not acceptable in any way.
People who don't agree with that play-style are welcome to find guilds more lenient on that score. However, sharing account information frequently results in hacked information, banning, and being unable to play for extended periods. From the perspective of a GM (Guild Master), there are a lot of ridiculous excuses that really don't apply and far too many liabilities that can create dysfunctions within the guild.
In the end, if people want to take that chance, it's totally up to them. However, I can also choose to associate and play with those I want to, and I'm not willing to invest time or energy in people who are basically cheating.
/end rate (not that I had intended this to become one!)
Mar 19th 2009 11:24AM Any clue as to why www.guildportal.com went down 36 hours ago and still isn't up?
Dec 9th 2008 12:08PM We have our weekly instance night tonight - and guess what? We have lotsa DPS and 5 healers signed up, and so far no tanks. So for us, in our specific guild on Eonar, we are short on tanks - we have people who love to heal, some who are willing to heal, and some ok with it for a while to get through middle levels with mostly-guild runs.
I do PuG - I don't mind filling in a group with non-guildees. However, my priority as a healer is to heal the tank and keep myself alive. I specced lightwell, and in hairy situations I'll toss it out. I generally tell DPSers that, they'll make me a happy healer as long as they don't pull aggro.
I'll generally give two warnings if DPS pulls aggro ("You're getting hit awful hard", "Remember, my priority is keeping up the tank.") And after that, I let them die. Tough love kinda thing. Once I've scraped them off the dungeon floor with a spatula a couple times, they seem to get the idea. I'm not mean about it, I don't swear, and I buff and heal them back up after rezzing them. However - if they want to waste gold on repairs, it's all up to them.
It is possible to PuG successfully - the trick is to be the one to start the group, if at all possible, and you can set the tone for the run. My limit is generally 3 wipes - then I'll politely bow out. No need to waste time if the group just isn't jiving!
Nov 25th 2008 4:36PM Hi there - I can understand your perspective, but this guy's wife supports him. I can only assume that at some point, if he were capable of getting outside, she would be the first one to encourage him.
My mother is physically disabled, and struggles with a lot of things. Her choices are to lay in bed or sit in a chair (when she is physically able to). Believe me - being trapped inside your home might be fun for the first week - maybe three. But nobody gets fulfillment or would prefer to stay inside their home, separated from all RL social interaction if they could choose otherwise.
For people with disabilities, I think WoW can be a great thing. When possible, I do think efforts should be made to not be so dependent on it - but when it's that or starting at a TV screen, I'd rather someone do something that makes them think, interact, and socialize.
Nov 24th 2008 1:25PM Our guild has about 90 accounts, and we encourage the philosophy of paying it forward. We can't always help those who've helped us, but we encourage people to try and help someone they can.
We also encourage our officers who are 'helpful' to finish what they're doing. If the member is really impatient, and/or truly doesn't need as much help, this gives them a slot of time to do something else about it before we need to.
On our website, we're constantly reminding folks to communicate their needs, and one of our higher member ranks is a reward for having balance - giving back and not just 'taking'. I think part of it comes down to culture - we have culture where the occassional 'lend-a-hand' is expected, and if people 'complain' about not getting help, we ask who they've helped recently.
I will generally make an exception to 'dawdling' before helping folks, if they are the kinds of folks who often help others. If a guildee hardly ever asks for help, and is helpful themselves, I'm more willing to immediately drop what I'm doing and jump at the chance to help them. :D