Jan 9th 2012 7:30PM All I could think of, while reading this post, was of Clara, from The Guild. She'd never interrupt a raid because of the kids...but she might for the pizza guy. Especially if he was cute.
I think it comes down to communication, or the breakdown of communication. Many PUGs, if not most of them, are notorious when it comes to demonstrating minimal civilized behavior. I've been in PUGs where pretty much the only thing said was, "Go-go-go!" or an unleashing of insults on someone who was perceived as not playing well. At the same time, though, I've also been in PUGs that were amazingly cool and generous.
Yes, these are real people out there, but it isn't all warm and fuzzy and you're basically walking into a group of strangers. Sometimes you luck out and sometimes you get stuck with the jerks and their minions.
If you want to PUG, then prepare to witness a lot of rude behavior and bad attitudes. If you get frazzled by that, then pugging is not for you. It really isn't for me anytime I am on my healer. The lack of patience and planning usually resulted in my getting blamed for deaths that in a saner, less crackpot environment would never have occurred:
"Why didn't you send healz?"
"I was busy healing the tank who pulled the entire room while the rest of the group was a hallway away."
"You suck! I DIED!"
"No, YOU suck. You died. Oh, and don't stand in the fire/festering black hole next time."
I agree with the advice here- if there's the chance of being interrupted, don't raid/instance with a PUG. Guilds tend to be more understanding, especially if you don't abuse anyone's patience. This is an extreme case, but I remember a few guildies and I used to do instance runs with a guildie who had just become a mom. We'd play for a while, but whenever her little one needed her, the run was over. We rarely finished anything. It was a small thing, but at least she got to enjoy a little bit of the game and we liked helping her because it made her still feel like part of the guild during a time of great change in her life. Now, if you are in a PUG and something really unavoidable happens, say something to the group- if you can, finish the pull first, and unless you'll be back in- literally- a few seconds, apologize and drop group so they can get someone else. Don't expect loyalty and understanding in these circumstances.
Like someone else said- the game is supposed to be fun- not out to make you "Stressed." I think Stressed just wants to have his cake and eat it too- which is very understandable in theory, but more complicated in practice... :-)
Dec 6th 2011 12:13AM "He said that we smeared the guild tag."
Forsooth! Pray tell, is this in WoW or some medieval fief??
The horror! The shame! I imagine the OP and buddy were THE TALK of Org, right in between the Anal and Murlock movie title jokes on General Chat... And I am sure the GM was *incredibly* concerned, given that he was quitting the next day.
I was a GM a couple years ago and what two adults in my guild did while goofing off in game really didn't reflect on me or anyone else, really. It would be one thing if this were a guild instance run including outsiders and the guildies were acting like total asshats- and I remember pulling rank when there was inappropriate guild chat going on because we had the occasional kid playing with us- but two people donning costumes and shooting fireworks? Seriously?? I mean, fireworks do evoke some naughty metaphors, but enough to kick someone out?
Here's my take: the GM? Intoxicated with his own power. Probably doesn't even get control of the TV remote in his RL.
Your "Friend?" He's after an epic pants drop from the OP. OP, if you read this, listen to the masses on this one: he's an ASS. He's slippery and wussy- trash mob of the dating life.
Move ahead and rock on.
Jun 10th 2011 11:26PM WoW + Ponies= My Little Pwnies...
Nov 18th 2010 6:06PM They killed Old Blanchy???? NOOOOOOOOO!!!
That's so wrong and upsetting.
I need a cookie.
Nov 18th 2010 6:04PM They killed Old Blanchy???? NOOOOOOOOO!!!
That's so wrong and upsetting.
I need a cookie.
Oct 10th 2010 9:41PM I don't know why the screenshot of the monument plaque to Lestharia Vashj with the blatant misspelling of "benevolent" is bothering me so much.
*Flashbacks of younger sibling's creative efforts consisting of horrible 'Choose Your Own Adventure' style stories peppered with statements like, "Ha ha! Bad choice! You loose your sord!"*
Oct 1st 2010 7:24PM That's such a heartbreaking situation!
@ Someone: I've never tried RPing, but I am guessing that you've clocked a looooot of time RPing a 6-month relationship. It sounds like you guys are close, but perhaps more as friends than anything else- I say that mostly because he obviously enjoys the closeness even though he isn't interested in being exclusive with anyone.
I agree with the Drama Mamas' advice-- but perhaps, before taking any action, you should take a break from that character. Part of the reason we become so attached to our crushes/loves is because our brains release those feel-good endorphins when we are/communicate with them- there's an actual addiction- a little 'high,' so to speak... Maybe if you work on an alt, or start leveling another character on another server, you'll be able to take a breather and put things in perspective. You may find it liberating to stop inhabiting your character's mind frame while this is going on. You can let him know that you want to try something different for a while and see what his reaction is- no mind games- be on the level always. Be ready to do what you said you were going to do and if he's truly upset about it OOC, that could lead to a good discussion and a resolution. On the other hand, if he's breezy and casual about it, then go and take the time to think.
Oct 1st 2010 6:31PM @ Haden: Straz said [Thunderfury, Blessed Blade of the Windseeker]!
*Sits on the reply button and refuses to move*
Sep 28th 2010 9:44PM @Ikarus: PHM...and you explain it stands for Phallic-Headed Monsters, I hope.
Congrats Cutaia! Extend the 15 minutes of fame to 16 and tell us the origins of that last name! :-D
Sep 20th 2010 2:16PM @cidninja- I get what you're saying, but my question is: If mana management is going to be tricky and our spells are going to cost more...what is going to compensate for that? How is it going to be more interesting and fun? Is it really going to be more challenging in a positive way, or is it going to just be a massive concussion from the nerf bat?