Mar 28th 2012 6:01PM What are all these comments I'm seeing about farming, I haven't read anything about that? Is there a link someone can point me to for info?
Feb 25th 2012 7:30PM I feel exactly the same Tai! I'm a female gamer in my 30s and I can't talk about it with work colleagues or non gamer friends. Whenever I have opened up in the past I have ended up sorry I did.
Like you, I feel like people don't know the real me either. I have plenty of other interests and I talk about those, but there is this chunk of my life that I skirt around.
This comic sums up how I feel very nicely. I was like 'OMG it's not just me!'
Feb 25th 2012 7:12PM I'm the same, I hide it from my work colleagues and non gamer friends. Too many negative reactions in the past have put me off, plus I think there is extra stigma to being a girl gamer.
The negative reactions have not been outright condemnation, but more a subtle disdain from then on. Like if I mention I'm tired, I get 'up all night playing huh?' when I don't even play late on weeknights. Or constant comments about how they wouldn't have time to play games (the tone clearly implying that I am wasting my time on something stupid and childish). Yeah but they will spend 3 hours in front of the TV a night no problem!
I even get it from gamer friends that don't play WoW. Apparently other games are fine but WoW is the crack of games and if I play it I must be addicted. When I told a friend I took a 6 month break from WoW, he assumed it was as some kind of intervention! Umm no, I was bored.
Feb 8th 2012 9:21PM Any suggestions for what to replace it with? Or is the default UI good enough so you can just use that now?
Feb 7th 2012 10:30PM Totally agree with this. I find all these arguments about how it shouldn't be a feature because 'we should just be honest with people' or 'we should behave like adults' quite bizarre. What, we want a useful feature not to be implemented because it's more character building to go without it? Since when is that the role of a game?
Secondly, if you don't want to talk to people because you have had a stressful or exhausting day and are feeling burnt out, it is actually even more exhausting to then have to explain that to multiple people. Then, being your friends, they get all concerned about what is wrong. It is not a problem I am having at the moment, but I have certainly experienced it in the past.
Feb 3rd 2012 9:10AM About 3 months after release, some of the guys I worked with got it for me as a birthday present. I was a long time PC gamer, whereas they were mainly console gamers so none of them played WoW. But they thought it was something I would like and they were right.
I used to come into work and report to them on all the cool things I'd discovered. I remember telling them how I was finally level 20 and them joking about how I must be the Queen of WoW. Seems so funny now. But just remembering the sense of wonder I felt at it all, it was amazing.
Took me until BC to convince my husband to give it a go. He is now way more addicted to it than me.
Jan 30th 2012 8:16PM Clundgren, I do agree with you about the archetypal bully having high self esteem. This would probably align with the 'elitist' group. However the first type referred to here definitely does exist in my experience - the 'aggression as a form of defence' type person.
For instance, in my job I implement IT systems. Most of the time, the person who will be the most aggressively critical of the system, the implementation etc will be the one with poor computer skills who is in fact scared that they won't be able to use the new system.
Another example is the kid at the fringes of the 'cool group' will often be the one who makes fun of the 'uncool' kids, to make it clear which side of the divide he is on.
Not your textbook bullies, but definitely a pattern of behavior I have observed.
Jan 30th 2012 7:53PM So far, every single bit of abuse I have experienced in LFR, or seen friends experience, has been loot related.
In particular, as an Ele Shammy, I regularly get abused when I win an item with spirit on it. It starts out with someone whispering me demanding the item because anything with spirit on it is a healer item' and when that doesn't work, ends up with them telling me how fail I am etc (apparently anything but #1 dps = fail).
I am normally the sort of person who takes this sort of stuff personally but I am working on not letting it get to me. At least the regularity of it is having a desensitizing effect!
Jan 25th 2012 6:02PM Agreed about the loot issues. A friend was in an LFR recently and a guy rolls on 2 items and wins them both. Immediately says WTS items because he already has them. When told you can't trade gold in LFR he leaves group, without at least giving them to someone who could use them. No doubt they were vendored.
I don't know why Blizzard can't at least make it so you can't roll on items you already own. Seems to happen a lot.
Jan 25th 2012 4:25AM Did my first LFR the other night (back from a long break) with the hubby. He was on an alt who had only just gotten geared enough to get into LFR and so was near bottom of the dps, but only by a small margin. He wins an item, immediately 3 people start sending him abusive whispers about how he doesn't deserve it because his dps was low. Much name calling etc.
How are you meant to improve dps if you aren't allowed to get gear? Meanwhile I won loot without abuse, must have been less desirable items. It confirmed my fears about raid finder unfortunately.