Oct 27th 2010 10:38AM I think the whole point of this article is that she does NOT define HERSELF by her husband, but rather, she is trying to break that stereotype.
Unfortunately, the perspective of a lot of people is that women, specifically gf/wives are bad players who tag along with their boyfriends/hubbies and get a free ride simply because of who their husband is. Obviously, not everyone believes this stereotype, but nonetheless, it exists.
The author is doing her best to be her own person and contribute to the guild in another way aside from being just another body in a raid, leeching off the success of others.
"If I look bad, then he looks bad": This is about PERSPECTIVE, and unfortunately it happens a lot. It may not be the TRUTH, but there are still people who judge like this-- and will make their assumptions on him based on what she does. Could you respect your GM if their wife couldn't dps their way out of a box? Couldn't get out of the fire? Couldn't play on par with the rest of the guild? Can you respect him If he put her in instead of another more skilled player, and you spend 2 hours wiping just because she couldn't figure out where to place her ice block? It goes both ways-- what if it was a female GM and a male lousy player?
The author's point is that she does her best to pull her own weight and distinguish herself. She doesn't want people to say "she just gets in raids because her husband is GM" and she doesn't want people to lose respect in him due to favoritism. This is something that I'm sure everyone has dealt with in one way or another, whether it's in game or at work. She's asking the readers to do the same: either from a female perspective, show how you distinguish yourself, or to the males, note a worthy female player who breaks the stereotype.
Sometimes I think people read way too negatively into things. I'm pretty positive this article wasn't written to condescend to her own sex. Yes, gender shouldn't have anything to do with it, but the reality is it does, because the stereotype still exists.
Oct 27th 2010 8:18AM The GM in my old guild was the wife. She did a great job. The guild I'm in now, we have a good handful of females/wives (including myself) and I think they are all excellent players.
There will always be a few women who fit the negative stereotype-- I've seen one or two on my server-- but for the most part, any females that I've played with (by far, the majority) fit in with the guys just the same. It's unfortunate that a few bad apples ruin the whole bunch.
Oct 25th 2010 1:51PM My first character was my priest. I didn't know anything really about the game, but I knew I wanted to be a Night Elf. Looking at the different classes I could be, I finally settled on the priest. Healing/support seemed interesting (I'm a respiratory therapist IRL so I guess healing is my thing.) I actually ended up putting my talents into shadow though; the dark melty-ness really piqued my interest. It was a very different outlook on what a priest could be, as opposed to the perfectly righteous being. While leveling, I kept running into another player (who's is now a good friend of mine 3 years later) and we were always having problems finding a healer for our dungeons, so I ended up healing, despite my spec. Once I hit 70, I vowed to never heal again; (on that character) however, dual spec opened up the world of Disc to me, and truly I love it equally to shadow.
For most of Wrath, I played a resto shammy (she accidentally became my main, another story for another day). Recently I resurrected (hehe) my priest, and she is definitely my first love, and is now my main, onward through Cataclysm. Shadow or Disc: I'll be melting faces, smiting faces, or shielding my friends. I enjoy shammy healing very much, (and enhancement before they butchered it) but the priest is intricate and has a play style I can enjoy in every mood. It just wins. I really love the play style of the two specs: Disc, I don't think of so much as a "healer" but more of a...morale support and backseat protector, so to speak. And shadow isn't evil per se...it's the opposite of Disc; demoralizing the enemy and melting their mind to a pulp. That's how I imagine it anyway. I like being able to play both sides of the coin. Such a versatile class with an interesting play style, I love it!
Oct 22nd 2010 9:21AM My guild isn't top server, but it's one of the top. We have (12? can't confirm a few of them) females, and about 8 of them are active raiders. It's not a big deal...we're all professional (most of us are married and/or moms anyway) and we play just as well as the guys. I have to agree with Mama Lisa; if the guild had reservations about me being female, then I really wouldn't want to invest my time with them-- I don't care how elite they are. It's a game we play for fun, and feeling like an outcast would definitely not be fun.
Oct 15th 2010 6:24PM Shadow is my main spec, but I was asked to go disc for a few fights in our Heroic 10.
2 healed Heroic Fester and Rot (my counterpart was a holy priest.) No problems on Festergut. Holy priest died halfway through Rotface and I finished out the fight. It was pretty rough, but we finished with 8 standing. There were a few people aside from tanks taking incessant damage; not sure what the issue was exactly...if they couldn't see they were standing in the slime or something. Or maybe small slime + vile gas. Dunno... Heal is too slow to cast on these kinds of fights, which is unfortunate, because talented it can reduce the weakened soul debuff.
Heroic Sindy. Ugh. A few bugs made this encounter pretty terrible-- our tank was taking unresisted damage, and tanks were getting Iceblocked in Phase 3...and a few other things made it a little more challenging, as we could barely see the frostbombs and things like that.
As far as healing goes, it felt more or less the same as before, except less mana issues. Grid was my addon of choice, so getting used to another mod for the time being. I couldn't see all the things I like to see, like my weakened soul debuffs. I managed to get off a few smites on the iceblocks and use my Archangel at the start of her landing. Popped the PW: Barrier at the start of phase 3 over most of the group. Not entirely sure if it even lasted a full second. I know there's a lot of inc damage on that fight but it just seemed a little weak. I guess adding too much more to it would make it OP in situations like PvP...but looking back on the fight it seemed kind of worthless to use.
Needless to say, with the bugs and whatnot, we are saving this fight for later in the week...hopefully some of it clears up quickly.
On a side note, we had an interesting bug on H. Deathwhisper...she broke free when her mana was at 70%. With shadow's dps rocking, I nearly peed my pants when she headed my direction early (yay, Fade). That made things quite interesting, and we lost a tank in the midst of that...60k Frostbolt?! Hooray for Brez.
Oct 12th 2010 8:19AM Hit the trainers, then find a low population area away from annoying people to play with my new stuff.
Here's to hoping the servers come up at a relatively decent time so I can get city stuff done before kids get out of school. Long shot, I know...but I can dream!
Oct 11th 2010 9:19AM I took a break shortly after my son was born, but once we got into the swing of things, I spent many nights raiding while breastfeeding and rocking my son to sleep.
I've moved on to a different guild 14 months later, and my husband is deployed, so I'm caring for my son solely by myself. I spend all day playing with him and doing household chores. Once he goes to bed for the night, I take a nap and get up to raid. It's a little taxing, but it's also good stress relief.
Sep 19th 2010 8:33AM You've never, ever gotten lost?
As a brand spanking new player, I had been exploring to my utmost ability, and fell off Teldrassil. I spent a good hour, at least, trying to figure out how I was going to get my body back, as I couldn't really rez at the bottom of Teldrassil.
I've been asked by plenty of newer people to come fly out to BFE to resurrect them, just because they were so engrossed in the game world that they ended up dying in very inconvenient places.
If you've never, ever had a similar issue...I actually feel bad for you, because you obviously didn't go out of your way to just ENJOY the game.
Getting lost can often be inevitable, and sometimes fun for the new player, but it shouldn't be miserable to get back to one or two of the places should you not know the terrain well enough and your spirit ends up in an unfortunate place. Sometimes the graveyard ends up being in a place you haven't yet explored, and it's not the player's fault that they don't know everything in between yet.
Sep 7th 2010 1:03PM I am enjoying this column as well. As Wrath is winding down, some of my guildies and I have formed a team of each 2s 3s and 5s. They aren't really pro comps or anything, but we are having fun nonetheless. This article was perfect, as we've only done 1-2 weeks on each team. Now that I've gotten my feet wet and mostly figured out what I should be doing in my role (shammy healer) I can focus on using some of these tactics you mentioned and hopefully use them to our advantage.
Sep 6th 2010 9:05AM My main spec is Restoration, although as of late, I play both resto and enhancement about equally. I heal a dungeon if I just want to knock it out; I often get to dps if a few people in the guild need to run their characters. I dps the first half of ICC and sometimes some of the harder bosses if we happen to have an extra healer.
In Cata I will likely go back to healing full time (for raids anyway) at least until we have some bosses on farm. Gearing my off-spec will be easy enough though, as we only have an ele shaman and one hunter. Our guild does a lot of things together, so it shouldn't be too much of a problem to get gear in 5 mans.