Oct 26th 2010 11:41AM Having been a raider in a casual 25 man guild -- left it to join a hardcore raiding guild -- and then come back 6 months later -- due to changes in my personal life which don't allow me to raid at htat level any longer, I've seen the opposite kind of backlash.
When I left the casual 25 man guild they were barely able to get festergut on normal down. Six months later, they're struggling on normal sindragosa when I've downed 9/12 hardmodes on 10 and 25 man content and downed the LK more times than I can count.
To say that I am the same player I use to be, would be a bold face lie. I've improved by leaps in bounds in terms of skill, gear and experience. I don't walk around trying to be a jerk, calling anyone bad, etc. I came into the guild trying to keep a very low profile .. I've only spoken up once or twice since I came back to this guild, and it was never on vent, only in raid chat.
Both times, I've been greeted with a "who the hell do you think you are" diva attitude from people I use to consider friends before I left before. I'm sure these former hardcore raiders were out of line by calling other players bads etc -- but I paint the above story to illustrate the point, that there are two sides to every story.
I didn't come back to my old guild to gloat. I have never and will never call anybody bad. I have done my best to help them succeed and when I thought I could make a difference once or twice, I tried to do so. I agreed to come back and raid normal mode, instead of heroic, because I didn't have the time to devote 4 nights a week at 4 hours a pop to raiding any more. I thought I could be of some help in filling in their healing team which was sadly depleated.
The truth is, that jealousy and other players own feelings of inadaquicy can cause issues, reguardless of whether the other person tries to make them feel bad or not. I have started to regret coming back to my own guild. But I stay for the love of everything that's still good.