Jun 24th 2011 4:58PM Vitasia-
It is never a good thing to "withold" information due to gender, race, sexual orientation, and so on. I understand the stereotype involved, but you should never hide who you are for the sake of "fitting in". Your guild will feel even more violated because you lied in the first place.
Now I am not saying you should go around and scream you are a woman every 2 seconds, but if the question comes up, be prideful! No shame in who you are.
Mar 25th 2011 4:59PM Well, we have to assume he is telling the truth because we do not have evidence to the contrary. The letters writers submit are based on the idea that they are full truths of their side of the story.
His letter was submitted because he was looking for validation on his point of view as well as advice on what to do next. If you think this letter is a "woe is me", couldn't you say the same for any letter that is submitted for advice?
As well, I agree that both sides have faults. I just think the advice given to rectify/solve this situation wasn't there. I feel that Lisa's response was more judgmental than it was "here is the way I see it and how I feel".
Mar 25th 2011 2:31PM I normally read this article on a frequent basis and I usually leave with a feeling of good advie. Unfortunately, Lisa's comments have left me a little perplexed.
There is fault by both parties here, and that is apparent, but what seems to be missed is that Vent said multiple times that he couldn't hear. In a typicaly 10 man raid group, there are 9 people playing. Out of 9 people, not one person could note that they understood, or bothered to say "We don't want to type out the strategies to you"?
As well, he isn't exactly a newcomer. I have been in a guild for quite sometime and people come and go for their hiatus, but upon re-subbing, we don't treat them as if they were someone who just joined. They may not get all the perks that they used to have, but they are treated and respected the same. As well, "bending" is a 2 way street. You are right in the fact that he should bend, but the guild also needs to have a sense of flexbility. What the officer did was wrong, plain and simple, and no amount of "you should have read" will fix that issue.
Im my view Lisa, your advice sounded more inline with the angry officer than giving solid advice on how to help/prevent this issue in the future.
Oct 29th 2010 5:01PM Dante-
If you were indeed a big boy, you wouldn't have posted a response on how "big" of a boy you are.
Congratulations on disproving your point.