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Mists of Pandaria: Glyphmas 2012 for scribes is right around the corner {WoW}

Apr 2nd 2012 4:14PM Yeah I meant besides the blackfallow conversion, that conversion rate is horrible. Thanks anyways guys.

Drama Mamas: Should a WoW widow become a WoW player? {WoW}

Apr 2nd 2012 4:11PM Two things I missed:

1) You asked "What if I put time/energy/heart and soul into getting my character to a level that can raid, etc and the guild doesn't want me?" This is a very real possibility that you have to keep in mind for two reasons. First, a lot of guilds are set in their roster and may simply not have room for you, at least not without kicking someone out and pissing people off. Second, it can take a while to acquire the skill necessary to play WoW at a high level, and honestly for some people that skill never shows up.
Nothing I said should completely discourage you from trying, but keep all this in mind before you invest the time and commitment to gear up a character for raiding.

2) Finally something that really set off a warning flag: you mention being jealous of his relationships with certain guild members- are these females? If so, remember that proper behavior in online opposite-sex relationships is exactly the same as proper behavior in real life opposite-sex relationships. You have a right to (and should) communicate to your husband honestly and sincerely how those relationships make you feel.

... if it's a relationship with someone of the same gender, well, boys will be boys.

Drama Mamas: Should a WoW widow become a WoW player? {WoW}

Apr 2nd 2012 4:10PM Two things I missed:

1) You asked "What if I put time/energy/heart and soul into getting my character to a level that can raid, etc and the guild doesn't want me?" This is a very real possibility that you have to keep in mind for two reasons. First, a lot of guilds are set in their roster and may simply not have room for you, at least not without kicking someone out and pissing people off. Second, it can take a while to acquire the skill necessary to play WoW at a high level, and honestly for some people that skill never shows up.
Nothing I said should completely discourage you from trying, but keep all this in mind before you invest the time and commitment to gear up a character for raiding.

2) Finally something that really set off a warning flag: you mention being jealous of his relationships with certain guild members- are these females? If so, remember that proper behavior in online opposite-sex relationships is exactly the same as proper behavior in real life opposite-sex relationships. You have a right to (and should) communicate to your husband honestly and sincerely how those relationships make you feel.

... if it's a relationship with someone of the same gender, well, boys will be boys.

Drama Mamas: Should a WoW widow become a WoW player? {WoW}

Apr 2nd 2012 3:55PM "Is it just me, or does every single Drama Mamas article ever written boil down to the fact that people don't talk to each other enough?" This made me laugh. Spot on.

Drama Mamas: Should a WoW widow become a WoW player? {WoW}

Apr 2nd 2012 3:52PM And this part is directed at the other posters and the Mamas in particular: be VERY careful judging the the relationship of this couple!!! It's easy to read into Shannon's statements and assume that the husband, like some have accused, just sits around the house, plays WoW all day and ignores his wife. But it's really unfair to infer things about the couple because we simply don't know anything beyond whatever Shannon voluntarily shares in her letter. So let me just throw out a few things.

First, there are many reasons that he wouldn't have a job beyond laziness, not the least of which could be that he simply doesn't need to! There are plenty of single income houses, and I know several stay-at-home dads. I'm personally wondering if there's a subtle sexism behind the assumption that the dude needs to have a job, and that's before we get to other reasons posters have mentioned like disability or inability to find work.

Second, I don't get why people assume he's lazy. Any home mom or home dad will tell you that it's not an easy job (yes, a job) doing all the house chores, especially with two children. So what if he plays "many hours a day"- I play "many hours a day" despite working >40 hours a week.

Finally to the core of things: none of Shannon's writings directly indicate that she's dissatisfied with the husband's commitment to the relationship, just that she wishes she could also participate in his (and the kids') favorite hobby, but has her reservations. I really think that posters would do well to give the couple the benefit of the doubt and not scold them for perceived relationship flaws where there may not be one! That's EXTREMELY dangerous territory!

(Closing statement that I have no factual support for but want to mention: I feel like a lot of people are projecting their own relationship frustrations onto Shannon's letter.)

Drama Mamas: Should a WoW widow become a WoW player? {WoW}

Apr 2nd 2012 3:14PM Hey Shannon!

I would suggest dropping a few hints around your husband about playing WoW and seeing what his reaction is. Some guys want their SO involved in their hobbies, and some want quality alone time. Also, some guys want their girls in on certain hobbies (I love playing WoW with the gf) but not others (she would be appalled at my language and attitude when I play basketball, but I need my guy time!) Every couple needs things they do together and things they do apart, so respect his wishes, but do ask! You might be surprised to learn he's been wishing for years that you played with him, just like I was when my girlfriend randomly declared last summer that she would start playing WoW.

With regards to the three obstacles you listed:
1) It's certainly possible to sink astronomical amounts of time into WoW, but not necessary. Start with small goals you set with your husband- "I'm going to level out of the newbie zone", "I want to try a random dungeon", "I want to pick a profession", and go from there.
2) WoW is very accessible for non-gamers.My girlfriend isn't a gamer either, but now she's jumpshotting with the best of em.
3) Most of the players I've encountered are laid back and I don't think anyone is going to accuse you of being a jealous wife, unless you're extremely clingy or entitled (and nothing you wrote would lead me to believe you are).

Also, I'm REALLY impressed that you found this site and this column to ask your question, that means you've really done your research. Kudos and good luck!

Mists of Pandaria: Glyphmas 2012 for scribes is right around the corner {WoW}

Apr 2nd 2012 2:50PM Does anyone know any tricks to getting snowfall ink, other than laboriously milling stupid northrend herbs?

Mists of Pandaria: Glyphmas 2012 for scribes is right around the corner {WoW}

Apr 2nd 2012 2:39PM I'm pretty sure research has a 100% success rate until you learn everything. There's no RNG involved other than what glyph you get. If you're missing one minor glyph, I'm guessing it's one available at a vendor somewhere, go Wowhead it.

Mists of Pandaria: Glyphmas 2012 for scribes is right around the corner {WoW}

Apr 2nd 2012 2:37PM Definitely just a placeholder. Those vendors are a must because the economy on beta servers gets out of whack since you can copy over characters multiple times and then consolidate their gold and tradeable items.

The Queue: That one drop {WoW}

Apr 2nd 2012 11:37AM Seriously, it's so much better hearing it straight from him rather than secondhand from a CM. It's like the difference between reading a paper from a scientific journal versus the CNN article summarizing that paper. Here's hoping he becomes a permanent presence on the forums again.

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